Sunday, January 27, 2008

"The Four Agreements"

I am new to the blog world and I guess I am very naive about it. As I sat down this evening and was reviewing my blog I noticed some new comments. I am always excited about comments but imagine my dismay when opening the comments, they were mean and spiteful and gossipy.
I had attended the adult session of stake conference and it was about making your relationships better particularly your marriage but would apply to your friends, family, basically anybody. The key elements were love, saying Thank You and being thoughtful! As I sit here I am saddened but also nauseous because why in the world would someone post hateful things on a new blog??? To the person that is so insecure and mean spirited, I send you only love and forgiveness because you definitely need something in your life. I am in a place in my life where I am willing to give people the benefit of the doubt and only want to look for the good in them. We are children of a most high God and thus each is worthwhile and important.
Note I did not say each of us is perfect, that is why we are here to be tested and to become better each day. I am not allowing anonymous comments on this blog. The comments incidentally were not even directed at me but at someone that reads my blog. I just hope they were deleted quickly enough as to not hurt some one's feelings. This is a place where I write what is on my mind, it is NOT a forum to be mean to anyone. I will continue to write here because I will not allow meanness and hatefulness to infiltrate my life. My friend, Jayne recommended a book called, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. I read it some time ago but intend on reading it again. Basically, the four agreements in a nutshell are,
  • BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD - SPEAK ONLY THE TRUTH. NO GOSSIP
  • DON'T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY - IT IS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU, EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN AGENDA AND WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES
  • DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS - WE ARE OFTEN WRONG WHEN WE ASSUME THINGS BECAUSE OFTEN WE DO NOT HAVE ALL THE INFORMATION
  • DO THE BEST YOU CAN - EACH DAY DO THE BEST YOU CAN FOR THAT DAY!!!

Due to the comment section which incidentally was in the post about my sweet husband, (I really thought someone was going to comment on him) this was not my intended subject for a lovely Sunday. Everyone would do well to remember we are children of a most Heavenly Father and everyone is worthy of love, friendship and happiness. Imperfection abounds but we learn from this. I am by no means perfect, I strive to live each day a little better than the last one. So my friends and friends I have yet to meet, be a little nicer, a little kinder, more gentle, be forgiving so that you may rest your head on the pillow at night knowing that you enriched some one's life rather than crushed their spirit. I go to bed with a clear conscience, my heart is a little heavy but this too shall pass. Namaste

4 comments:

marlajayne said...

This is beautiful! It's too bad that someone chose to use your blog as a forum for attacking another person. What can be the motivation for such behavior? Jealousy? Envy? Insecurity? In any case, I love the way you handled it...with love.

The Four Agreements is indeed a wonderful book. My son gave it to me for my birthday one year, and I read it on a plane when DH and I went to Washington a couple of years ago. I remember that detail so well because I was literally above the clouds when I read Ruiz's wise words. I've noticed in my life that many, many times the "challenges" I have are related to one or more of the agreements.

Namaste! Love it!

Michelle said...

Perfectly said by my perfect mother

Hayden said...

What?? Why on earth would anyone attack you?

By the way, I can tell you took that picture. Yet again it is of a place that I totally want to go visit.

Perfectly Blended said...

How cute are the pictures in your side bar!!