Wednesday, November 11, 2009

In Memorium


December 18, 1925 - November 10, 2009 May your journey to the next life be filled with peace and joy. You are so loved and will be missed by so many family members and friends.


This soft spoken somewhat taciturn wonderful man was my father in law for 13 years...he stepped in to be my "dad" when his son and I were married. My own father died 27 years ago. Our relationship was born of humor and a gentle teasing between the two of us. My favorite story he tells of "us" is one that got better and more exaggerated each time he told the story. It began with our house remodel and the invitation to stay in my in-laws home since we had no bathrooms...it was a time I cherish because I spent a summer with them and built a great relationship with both and was able to learn so much about "their history". I shared the middle upstairs bathroom with Mr. Fogle...he stored the toilet paper in the closet near the entry door which to my thinking was highly inconvenient...I moved it all to the cabinet beside the toilet. That evening in walks "FoFo" with a giant case of toilet paper. He mentioned that he didn't realize we were completely out of paper...there was not a single roll to be had...I confessed that I had indeed moved the toilet paper in the cabinet beside the toilet...that incident happened probably seven years ago but to hear him tell it...it was like yesterday and that I not only moved it once but twice...he cautioned everyone that I would re-arrange things if not watched.
I came to work at Fogle Electric almost three years ago. My father in law taught me many things about the electrical business and took great delight when I would ask questions about his work. Work is the one thing that made him happiest. He worked every day through his illness and only quit a few months ago when he was to weak too come to work. Even during those last months...he would look at me and say...I'm going to get better and I'll come give you a hand...or I need to come by and keep an eye on you. We had a jovial, joking, laughing type relationship...it was not filled with hugs, kisses, I love yous or lots of words...it was special and I will miss him.
Hey Fo Fo...how about not hassle the cute angels...til we meet again

14 comments:

Michelle said...

Nice! Good job mom! I think you should bring toilet paper to the funeral.

Pippa said...

My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones for the loss, sweet Connie. What a nice memory - I smiled at that. And I laughed at Michelle's suggestion! =) Wouldn't that be a lark!

All the best for the difficult time ahead. May peace and joy follow you and find you.

Rosezilla said...

A good relationship with in laws is a gift. I'm glad you'll have such good memories to help get through this time.

thedailydish said...

@Michelle - HAH!

Even in a time of loss, you all manage to shine. Hang in there. Sending love & prayers.

xo

Hayden Tompkins said...

You are both in my thoughts. {HUG}

scchesleys said...

Hugs to you and your family!

stephanie of stopbouncing said...

You're in my thoughts.
**hugs**

daffy said...

Thinking of you all. What a lovely relationship you had. xx

Putz said...

oh me oh my, he just died connie...i am so sorry,

Jayne said...

Wonderful tribute. Though I never met him, I feel like I know him a little after reading this.

GrandmaKathleen said...

Connie,
My deepest condolences to you and your family. When someone dies it is most difficult for those who remain however all of the memories always keep that person alive in our hearts. Your closeness to your father-in-law is shown with your story and your special tribute.
Prayers are being said for your loss.

Christy said...

This was wonderful to read. A great tribute to a man to to the relationship you had with one another!

beth said...

you were so lucky to have those 13 years with him...you are in my thoughts....

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your memories will be a comfort in time to come.