Friday, August 20, 2010

Gift of Jewels Gift of Friendship

When things seem to be looking down and happy is hard to find, the Universe or for me, God steps in and sends the right people at the right time.  People that enjoy your company (just the way you are) and do not expect anything from you just good conversation and laughter.  God knows I needed the postive support and love.  My darling husband has been remarkable (as usual).  The only downside would be the fabulous meals that I have been forced to eat!  I amazed by the outpouring of love and friendship, both in real life and in cyberspace.  I have been astounded to realize just how many lovely people I have come to know. Making new friends is friends from Nia cyber husband's friends from grade school and high school. Nuturing older friendships from my neighborhood (we laughed until we had tears in our eyes)  Book clubs friends reading Eat, Pray, Love and watching the movie...having an intense craving for Italian food after.  "Floozie friends" that love you fiercely enough to allow sadness and step in to offer support and comfort.  So thanks to all my beautiful friends!

My dear friend, Se'Lah of Necessary Room is  hosting another round of "The Gift of Jewels" This will mark the third time I have participated in this wonderful outpouring of love and friendship around the globe.  I am so excited to plan something to mail to my "newest" friend.  I have met a very funny Mamma of four grown sons and a beautiful, creative spirit in Denmark both of whom share parts of their lives with me as a result of Se'Lah's love, generosity and giving spirit. 

I am filled with gratitude and humility and IT IS ALL GOOD!!!

p.s. the above photo is a postcard I received through Postcrossing.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

To Forgive or Not Forgive?

emp·ty [ √©mptee ]

containing nothing: not containing or holding anything, unoccupied, uninhabited, unfilled, etc. etc.

Experiencing some serious betrayal has left me feeling a little tired, shell shocked and empty.  I like my place to be a place of love, joy, compassion and lots of happy...with the occasional snark thrown in for fun.  The actions of others remind me that one must always look inside to find the full measure of one's worth!  Everything happens for a reason and there is always a lesson to be learned.  I am working on an attitude of forgiveness, praying and meditating on what that means.  My thoughts go round in circles and lead me in many directions, along with forgiveness comes the philosophy surrounding the word UBUNTU...I Am Because You Are...We are all connected to a larger whole.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu offered a definition

A person with Ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu further explained Ubuntu in 2008:

One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu - the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can't exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can't be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality - Ubuntu - you are known for your generosity.

We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole world. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.

So when I offend, I am sorry and seek forgiveness...when offended I offer forgiveness whether it is sought or not. 

The Bible teaches us that we are to forgive over and over and over and over.  The "Golden Rule" suggests we treat others as we wish to be treated. 

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."   Paul Boese.

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."  Mahatma Gandhi

and for those of you that like a little snark with your diet coke:

"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."  Oscar Wilde

After turning the other cheek, the best "revenge" is to live a happy life surrounded by those that love and care for you...even with a foible or two!