LOOSE LEMONS

Free Spirited, She Is!

2012-01-04T11:13:00.000-05:00

My granddarling Anna will soon be six. She burst into this world in quite the hurry and has not slowed down since her arrival! She started kindergarten this year. My biggest hope is that the system will not steal all her joy, independence and free spirit. "They" want her to conform...she has a hard time with it.
To say she has her own sense of fashion is an understatement. My daughter prefers not to battle over clothing, hair and shoes. As long as she is covered and it is not a safety issue so be it. The assistant in her classroom asked Anna if her Mother looked at her in the mornings...apparently Anna's choice of shoes did not suit her...she wore her jazz boots...leather bottom, leather tops, neutral color, very comfy not distracting to anyone except the assistant. Yeah, several of us were ready to string her up.

Anna dances through life...she is on a competition dance team with her first performance in February. She flew through my kitchen after dance dragging a pink suitcase on wheels. I told her I loved her pink suitcase and she assures me that it is HOT pink. She proceeded to do her dance routine on the breakfast bar.

Give the child some paper and something to write with...she is busy for hours, really! When this little girl has had enough of the world around her...she takes herself to bed and snuggles in with a stack of books.

Her Mimi (great grandma and my mom) gave her money for Christmas. Anna decided it was time to re-do what she calls "her" bathroom. Pink and purple polka dotted shower curtain, pink rug, toothbrush holder, cup and towel set...with a huge Justin Bieber poster (a gift from her brother). What five year old does this?

I LOVE this girl. I love her spirit. I love being reminded to dance through life...to be creative and to take yourself to bed with good books when the world is too much. Most of us knew what made us feel good and how to just BE before we let life take over. Yes...there are jobs, families, myriad responsibilities...in the midst of all of "that" let us not forget to just Be, to explore, to enjoy. I have a feeling 2012 is going to be an Amazing year...how about you, what do you think?

Word for 2012

2011-12-26T10:32:00.000-05:00

It has been a lovely Christmas season! I have spent the greater part of a day and a half in rest and contemplation. I have missed writing and visited my journal in an effort to choose a word of the year. For those unfamiliar with that concept, here is a great link: http://christinekane.com/blog/resolution-revolution-a-better-way-to-start-your-year/ basically you choose a word for the year rather than make a list of resolutions that never stick. This is the fifth year of choosing one word to define my year and I find that it works for me. After much contemplation and five journal pages I have chosen (or rather I believe the word chose me) Exploration! A theme that kept cropping up was fun, joy, openess, adventure and exploration.
I am always trying to improve myself with some success...now I think it is time to explore new places, new paths to creativity, spirituality and yes JOY and FUN. Often I have to talk myself into doing something...once on a certain path I am certainly happy I chose it...however it is a painstaking decision too frequently.

So I fondly (or not so much) say good-bye to 2011 and embrace the New Year with Exploration in my heart. Several health issues and foot problems have delayed a few goals...I fully intend to explore wellness and step into my dream of climbing a portion of Mt. Ranier (for my brother) traveling to Italy and to whatever new opportunities beckon me!

I wish each of you a fabulous 2012! Happy New Year Darlings!

Excuses or Whatever it is that I have been Up to Lately!

2011-12-14T11:36:00.000-05:00

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something I can do."

Edward Everett Hale, American Author, Clergyman

My dearest blog,

I am so sorry to neglect you so...the truth is...I have been cheating on you with another website. It's true, Pinterest sucked me right in, however it did inspire me to have a craft day/brunch at home. Which was a LOT of fun and included my daughters and granddaughter.

You are in good company as I have also neglected the many wonderful blogs that I love to read. So forgive me for leaving your "pages" blank. I do not wish to make any promises or excuses to you...hopefully things will return to normal (whatever that is) eventually. I have the greatest ideas for posts and even compose them in the car...trouble is...I cannot remember a thing once I get to a computer. My memory, while never stellar, fails me quite frequently.

You have my permission to hibernate or drink hot cocoa or whatever it is blogs do while their "writers" are engaged otherwise...I think of you often!

A few observations I have made lately...

Someone is clearing a huge section of timber from the road near my house...I love trees and this sorta hurt my feelings! I love all the lush green and abundant foliage. It is such a peaceful, tranquil drive.

A gentlemen paid for dinner for 12 ladies because he had been very blessed in his life...I was one of those ladies and did not know until after he left the restaurant. Carrabas - total bill $400.00

The Floozie girls (above mentioned twelve) adopted a single parent family for Christmas and had a spectacular luncheon to celebrate and wrap gifts! Many in the group engage in numerous acts of kindness and altruism. Those who are blessed should be willing to bless others and everyone is blessed in some form or fashion!

On the street where our business is located I pass by a strip of brick buildings, shops of various types and a church or ministry. The ministry often has tables set up with produce, bread and other items
that are free to the neighbors (many of which are living in poverty) It always makes me feel good to know that at least on that day (s) people will have a meal.  A first for me, I was able to witness the prayer circle that preceded the food being placed on the tables. It sent a jolt of indescribable peace and happiness through me.

So dear blog,

We often read or hear about the sad and bad that occurs...I know and I believe that Good People and Good Stories outweigh the bad! As for me and my house, we will continue to lift the hurting World up in prayer, continue to express gratitude for our many blessings, do what we can when can to improve our corner of the world and we will continue to act in kindness and love.   With your help, my blog friend and those other "bloggers" out there we will spread a message of hope, goodwill and cheer!
Love ya bunches, Connie

"That best portion of a good man's life; his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love."

William Wordsworth, English Poet

"No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted."

Aesop, Greek Fable Writer

AND one more...

"You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give." Kahlil Gibran, Lebanese Poet and Novelist

P.S. Lisa, if you are reading...this post exists because you asked! Thanks!

My First BFF

2011-11-17T10:26:00.000-05:00

Dear James,

I was just thinking this morning about how you were my first BFF (best friend forever) I really, really miss your quirky sense of humor...that is something we all had in spades! A little piece of me feels missing...you, at least get to be surrounded by those I loved best!

As your older sister I felt responsible for you. In many photos together I can be seen with my arm slung around you. One memory that has come to my mind today was a kool aid episode! We were standing in front of the fridge fighting over the kool aid pitcher and we both dropped it...I was trying to be the big sister...you were trying to assert some independence...it was probably my fault. You know how ballistic Mom can be...fortunately she decided to wait for Dad to come home for punishment...although Dad's disappointment was often more horrible than Mom's outrageous screaming and smacks with the wooden spoon. Dad talked to us very solemnly and asked who was responsible...neither one of us would "fess up" After one of his very long I am disappointed talks...he put us both on restriction. I felt so bad after all I was the taller, bigger and older sister. I went to our Dad and spilled my guts! That was the end of the punishment for both us although I do think I had to listen to one more I am disappointed in your behavior speech. I always thought, geez, could you just spank me already? I did my best to look after you...there are some things even a dedicated big sister couldn't fix.

You were such an inspiration. How many people can boast of your cross country accomplishments? You never did boast though. Actually, you still are an inspiration...we never did get to do that hiking together...Carl and I hike parts of the AT...we feel your spirit residing there and it is comforting. After all, on the trail and in the woods was where you came alive and were happiest!

Mom and I were talking on our way to visit Steve...he is still a pain in the rear baby brother (insert smile) and she simply stated...Gosh I miss that boy so much! You took such great care with her...she didn't get on your nerves much or make you tired. She makes me tired.

It is that time of year when I wax nostalgic and get weepy...it seems we never have enough time! We do not know how much time we have on this Earth...memories should be created at every turn...after all it is what we are left with when all else is gone.

I love you always and miss your presence in this world...til we meet again...the big sister

James aka as "PapaSquat" September 30, 1961 - November 17, 2003. Somewhere on the northern part of the Appalachian Trail.

P.S. I STILL have not been to Mt. Ranier!

Almost Wordless on Wednesday

2011-11-02T14:48:00.000-04:00

How many people actually enjoy having their picture taken? Apart from the odd one or two and those who make their living in front of cameras! This would be one of the reasons I stay behind the camera! That said, I absolutely LOVE this image photographed by my five (5) year old granddaughter. I think the camera was set on Aperture mode...I think my granddarling captured something special...my relaxed and playful side.

"Smiling is my favorite" Buddy, the Elf. I use my smile often and most folks respond well to a smile.
Even if I feel like crying on the inside...I just fake it til I make it. Usually I can talk myself out of a frowny mood. I just smiled at you...Pass It On!!!

Further Proof that Men Just Think Differently!

2011-10-04T13:20:00.000-04:00

So you meet the right guy and all you want to do is breathe the same air...fifteen years later and some days you just want to smack him with a pillow!

Men just think differently, I think it has to do with that Y chromosome. In my personal situation, my husband is not a multi-tasker...all attention is focused on what is right in front of him at that time. He also suffers from selective hearing!

Him: Is this all the trash that needs to go out?

Me: There are three bags in the garage by my car.

Him: Three bags of trash by your car?

Me: Yes, dear.

Him: I am riding to xyz...

Me: Okay

An hour later...

Him: I threw out the two bags of trash in the garage and I dropped the third bag at Goodwill! (With a huge smile, because he had done something "extra")

Me: Um, there were three bags of TRASH in the garage.

Him: No, the other one was full of clothes, I opened it and thought someone could use those things!

Me: It was trash!!!

Him: No, it wasn't...there were shirts and stuff in there.

Me: Actually, it was a bag of stained, torn shirts and old socks and underwear and probably some household trash as well! I am sure Goodwill appreciates those. I told you it was trash...why must you second guess me?

Him: I saw the shirts...I thought I would be helpful. Was I wrong to want to be helpful?

Me: Big SIGH!!!

another example:

Him: Would you like for me to carry that box inside for you?

Me: That would be great! Thank you!

Him: Sits on the garage steps and continues to watch me.

Me: Are you taking that box inside or do I need to?

Him: I didn't know you were ready for me to take it inside...

Me: Big SIGH

so he gets the box inside and puts it on the counter...perfect for him he can look right into the box...for me, not so much I am a foot or so shorter...I would need a stool to see in the box and get things out of it! He just grins sheepishly telling me that a woman architect/designer told him men hang things up too high...Yep, different perspective.

My dear husband and his cell phone are never far from each other. It is his office away from the office. It his connection to his band. We all love our cell phones, connectivity and contact information. On our recent visit to Las Vegas, the phone was in his constant possession much to my chagrin...UNTIL we left the hotel. We have checked our luggage, we have gone through security...we are finally relaxing for a few minutes before we board the plane.

Him: Do you have my cell phone?

Me: I didn't know I was in charge of your cell phone!

Him: Well, will you call the hotel and see if they found it?

Me: ???? I didn't leave it there!

Him: Well I can't call I don't have my cell phone (with pouty expression)

Me: *(&^%

There were a few more airport scenarios I won't even go into...suffice to say...my dearly beloved is not going with me when I go to Italy!

He is the dearest man whom I love, love, love...he just thinks differently and he means well, truly he does...now where is that pillow?

Caesar's Palace with the Newlyweds!

Happy New Year in September!

2011-09-06T13:07:00.001-04:00

I like the idea of Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. It has been a season of introspection for me. Determining what works in my life and what no longer serves and can be discarded. I have been so exhausted and I have decided my tiredness stems from all the thoughts running through my brain! I do not want to oversimplify or make light of a sacred holiday...there are numerous sites to go to for more information. Rosh Hashanah begins on sundown of September 28th and ends on September 30th. Certain foods are prepared and eaten such as apples dipped in honey...for a sweet new year. Many Jews go to a body of flowing water and recite prayers to release sins or as it says on one of the websites: "We leave our old shortcomings behind us, thus starting the new year with a clean slate" I like the idea of releasing sins, bad thoughts and so forth near a body of flowing water. For me, flowing water symbolizes purity and cleansing.
If you are the coast some time near the end of September you may very well see me there!

It is said when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Teaching moments (and learning ones) can come from so many sources. What other reason would the celebration of Rosh Hashanah be in the forefront of my mind...if not to teach me.

Leshanah tovah tikateiv veteichateim, "May you be inscribed and sealed for a good year."

May you always be open to the learning moments that cross your path even from the most unlikely sources!

You are Wrapped a Little Too Tightly!

2011-08-30T15:08:00.000-04:00

So, someone once told me I was wrapped up too tightly. Well yes I am, thank you. Sometimes you wrap yourself into a tight coil to protect the tender, sore, secret spots. A rattlesnake coils itself and rattles to warn trespassers. Someone always feels the need to poke a stick in the sore, tender spots heedless of the warning rattle. Why then, would they be shocked when bitten? It is no secret that some people are every bit as toxic as the venom from a rattlesnake bite. My cure for toxic people...avoid them when possible, if not possible be very nice to yourself!

Sometimes it is very difficult to shake off the funk...this helps...

a friend came by the office for a surprise lunch date...I have a 90 minute (don't be a hater) massage scheduled...my favorite dance/meditation class at 6...plus after we express pure joy through movement we have dinner together and experience laughter, tears and more joy! I would say things are looking up and I can unwind that tight coil.

day trippin

2011-07-18T13:01:00.000-04:00

'The time has come,' the walrus said, 'to talk of many things: of shoes and ships - and sealing wax - of cabbages and kings.'

Lewis Carroll

Anyone familiar with the book "The Phantom Tollbooth" will recall being stuck in the DOLDRUMS! You get sucked in and it is by great force of will that you escape! Yours truly has been experiencing a touch of ennui. Thank goodness it is Summer whereby everything slows down a teensy bit.

In an effort to break our routine and explore a new idea or visit a new place my husband and I embark on various day trips. We put the top down on the convertible and we pursue avenues not normally taken. We rarely use the fastest route preferring to travel the back roads. Our discoveries are endless! The latest adventure took us through rows and rows of cornfields, soy beans and cotton. The sky was a gorgeous azure with cotton candy puffy clouds. We explored Manning, Kingstree, and Georgetown then ate a late lunch on Pawley's Island. Dear husband feasted on shrimp and grits. I enjoyed lobster and crab. We could smell the marshes and dreamed of living in one of the stately homes.

We were sunkissed (i.e. I was sunburnt) windblown and tired by the time we arrived home.  It was a great little adventure!  Which is more important the journey or the destination? I guess that depends on whether you have a specific destination or not.  It was all about the journey for us...we spent time talking and laughing...not being distracted by telephones, computers or television.

p.s. The "ship" is one of the unusual sights seen on the highways and bi-ways of South Carolina.  Have you seen it? Do you know where it is, what it is and why it is there?

Everyday miracles and magic

2011-06-13T09:42:00.000-04:00

If I take the Wings of the Morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; even there shall Thy hand lead me, and Thy right hand shall hold me. Psalm 139:9-10

We are never truly alone. This sculpture comforts me in a way I cannot describe. The longing for serenity, peace and calm, for me, is always to be found in nature and art. When the two come together...magic happens!

I heard this yesterday...take a deep breath...that is a gift..that is a blessing. As I thought about these words,
a quote from Albert Einstein lodged in my mind: " There are only two ways to live your life, one is though nothing is a miracle, the other is though everything is a miracle." I am choosing to focus on every day magic and miracles rather than just muddling through life.

a few simple magical moments...

watching my husband make repairs on the screened porch
while the dog tilts his head and follows him around, sniffing the paint.

a hug around the knees resulting in an almost tackle from granddarlings that are excited to see you.

friends that "get you"

angel food cake, sliced strawberries, blueberries and cool whip that a dear man prepares for you.

lots of hugs and kisses!

swinging to the call of birds, the humming and buzzing of insects, the tink, tink, tink of the chains on the swing.

what calls to you right now, what simple joys make you happy?

2011-06-02T10:46:00.000-04:00

Inscription for a Garden Gate

Pause, friend, and read before you enter here

This vine-clad wall encloses holy ground.

Herein a mellowed garden dreams

away the years,

Steeped in serene, sweet light

and muted sound.

Herein tranquility and peace abide,

For God walks here at cool of

evening-tide.

Pause, friend, and strip from out your heart

All vanity, bitterness, all hate;

Quench, for this hour, the fever of your fears.

Then, treading softly, pass within this gate.

There, where the ancient trees wait

hushed and dim,

May you find God and walk awhile with Him.

Pearl Council Hiatt

Anna Hyatt Huntington selected this poem to be used at the gate of Brookgreen Gardens in 1959. It was written specifically for Brookgreen in homage to its splendid avenue of live oak trees.

I recently spent a beautiful morning admiring the oaks, the floral bounty, the wildlife, the many fountains and sculptures of Brookgreen Gardens. I also took a meditative stroll through the labyrinth. If you have plans to visit coastal South Carolina, I highly recommend this beautiful, serene garden. Brookgreen also has an extensive aviary and butterfly house. The entry fee allows you to come to the gardens all week. A very good deal for $12.00

Putting on the Super G Mom Cape

2011-05-26T13:18:00.000-04:00

Ah...the glorious month of May...Mother's Day, dance recitals, school programs, hot and sunny days.
My sweet daughter and her husband took an early anniversary/birthday jaunt to Vegas early in the month. The granddarlings stayed with us part of the time. In the midst of the everyday stuff we took opportunities for crafting and playing. We painted flower pots for Mother's Day. I love, love, love to watch children create!

I taught at a Montessori school for ten years. The process was always more important than the finished product. I try to remember that for myself as well. My grandson decided to paint trees as well...his story and he is sticking to it..." I am painting this tree because it is my special tree then I can find it again"

Skip forward a bit. I took care of my daughter as she was recovering from surgery, then handed her off to her husband and collected the grandchildren. When did getting children fed, dressed and off to school get so hard? Oh yeah, I think it is because I am 30 years older. I am part of the sandwich generation... the filling between generations...caring for aging parents and spending time with grandchildren.

A bit of a respite was had between all the craziness of May. Darling Husband and I escaped to the coast for a weekend. He even pretended to enjoy the sculpture gardens. This spot right here...it is calling me back...I can hear my name crashing into the surf...Connie, come back...

Wishing you a beautiful Spring day! I am planning a little porch renovation for the weekend...Do you have any special projects in the works?

The Floozies take on Edgefield

2011-05-23T14:10:00.001-04:00

We gather monthly to celebrate another turn around the sun. Jeanne's birthday was celebrated at The Edgefield Grill. A delightful afternoon of buzzed bees,er bees buzzing, lunch on the veranda and much laughter to the hum of thousands of cicadas emerging from the earth to mate. Imagine the whump, whump, whump of the Mothership...the cicadas have that alien sound. It is great sport to keep the cicadas out of your hair, mouth or food.

The town of Edgefield is the turkey capital of the state. It is/was hometown to countless politicians...is that a coincidence or what? Handpainted concrete turkeys line the streets of this quaint town. We attempted to shop however the town apparently closes at 2:00 p.m. on Saturday. No one told us! Floozies are a persistant lot and we soon found ourselves being educated at Edgefield Pottery.

This gentleman told us the history of pottery in Edgefield. The shop houses quite an extensive collection of artifacts.

I have found there is no better way to spend a Saturday afternoon than to laugh, talk, shop and eat! We do that extremely well. Friends enrich you and bring JOY to life!

Hazelnut Chocolate Ganache...Fried Green Tomato Salad with bacon crumbles and cucumber-wasabi dressing.
Ellen tried to keep us out of her delightful sorbet...too bad we are NOT germaphobes!

Happy Birthday Jeanne and act SURPRISED! Jeanne expressed a lovely thought...each time she wore the Silpada bracelet...she would think of us.

Yep, it is a two seater!

What mischief has come your way lately? Laissez bon temps rouler!!!

Getting Trashed or a little bit of This and That

2011-05-02T16:06:00.000-04:00

Columbia Design League's 2011 Runaway Runway...featuring fashion designed solely from trash and recycled materials...no new products allowed.

A couple of friends joined me Friday evening for an avant garde fashion show and event. All outfits were made from 100% post consumer trash. Ranging from recycled cemetary flowers to coffee bags, pepsi cans, car parts...you name it! I have been interested in participating for years. The Lady Chablis (of the movie Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil) was in attendance and that is one funny character. Musical numbers were performed by various artists including a group of drag queens. The spectators were almost as colorful as the performers. The youngest designer was nine years old and there was a grandma or two in the mix as well. I apologize for the blurry photos...I needed a reminder that I would like to design something for next year! I am looking at trash in a new way.

Dear Husband and I visited the "Who Shot Rock and Roll" photography exhibit at our local art museum. DH was in attendance during some of the concerts depicted and he had a bit of a stroll down memory lane.

He was interested in the musicians portrayed...I was interested in the photography techniques...win, win. I saw a college of cut and pasted photos that inspired me to create something in that direction as well. I continue to be amazed by what a slight change in perspective can do for your creative life. Sometimes all it requires is a tilted head to see something from a different angle.

Here are my little creative genius granddarlings...leftover 3D glasses and booklamps...they clipped them on and proceded to play dentist. Anna selected one of my knitting implements to examine my teeth...I am happy to report that I have no cavities and all teeth are still intact.

Anna was in a dance pageant recently...when asked if she was sad that she didn't win she said " I won a trophy, I had a lot of fun and I did something really hard" My little precious is only five and one wise little girl! She performed a solo dance to a Justin Bieber song in front of a pretty large crowd!

So what excitement have you been up to lately?

A Little Audrey...anyone?

2011-04-21T12:36:00.000-04:00

The rain in Spain falls mainly on the plain...

I pretty much cannot take a photo with a cell phone...Michelle and Heather at the Koger Center

My daughters and I went to see the musical "Grease" at the Koger Center for the Performing Arts. Michelle loves to sing, dance and act. She played Frenchy in a high school version of the play. In the foyer we noted the upcoming season at the Koger Center. Could it be? Yes, Yes indeed...My Fair Lady (one of our all time favs) will be here in November! I think perhaps the most celebrated would be the movie version starring Audrey Hepburn. Audrey Hepburn exemplified inner and outer beauty. I have noticed a maybe not so new trend but new to me...many younger ladies are emulating Audrey Hepburn and ladies of her era. Is that refreshing or what? I loved her sense of style, grace and all encompassing beauty. Googling along the way, I found some favorites:

What's not to love...bring out your inner Audrey!

and one more quote from Audrey:

Laissez les bons temps rouler

2011-04-11T12:35:00.000-04:00

One Big Pot...One Fabulous Neighborhood...50 pounds of live crawfish...Lots of Assorted Goodies...Beverages...Music...Children of All Ages...Toss with a huge dose of various cultures...A Good Time was had by All!

Trust me...she would rather play with the live crawfish, cooking and eating them held little appeal!

Sorry, my little pretty it is in the pot for you...my initiation into the JOYS of cooking crawfish...did I mention they are live when tossed in the boiling water?

"Try at least one"...a valiant effort was attempted and later a hasty retreat to the nearest trashcan!

Bargaining for ice cream...how many???

Playtime...

Our top o the hill neighbors, she originally hailing from Louisiana and he of Tunisia host this annual event. My ever so helpful neighbor D showed me how to twist the tail off the body, suck the head and proceed to pry a teeny tiny bit of meat from the tail. To be a good sport I attempted sucking the juice one time after which I ate a few more...I am not really the squeamish type however the already prepared shrimp and grits and other goodies beckoned me!

We have lived in our neighborhood since 1991. Neighbors have come and gone...at one time we knew everyone on two streets...now, not so much. It was a pleasure and delight to meet the newbies! The parents of the children I see walking dogs, riding bikes or passing in cars. Once predominately good ole Southern boys and girls...now a melting pot of diversity...I LOVE it! Many continents and countries were represented...an afternoon, late into the night celebration of friendship...perhaps the world leaders could take note...break bread, come together in fellowship...celebrate our diversity!

I baked a cake and made the following salad which can be used as a side dish, topping or dip.

Black Bean and Corn Salad/Salsa

4 - 6 tomatoes chopped small

1/2 large red onion, diced

choice of sweet peppers, red, yellow etc., hotter varieties may be included as well, about 1 - 1 1/2 cups

1 package of white shoe peg corn thawed (small bag)

1 can black beans, rinsed

2 avocadoes, diced

mix all diced, chopped ingredients and toss with lime cilantro dressing

Lime Cilantro Dressing:

juice from two limes, zest a little of the skin as well

1/8 teaspoon cumin (or more if you like lots)

handful of chopped, fresh cilantro

3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil (or more to taste, if too acidic)

salt and pepper to taste

Makes enough for a huge crowd and it is a crowd pleaser! I prepared this for the crawfish boil on Saturday and again on Sunday for our family get together.

"Let the Good Times Roll"

I think it's coming...Spring is coming!

2011-03-02T10:12:00.001-05:00

Spring is in the air! We saw our first daffodils down south on Saturday! After a harrowing attempt to feed two cranky children, daughter # 2 and I took the lovelies to Swan Lake. We walked on the boardwalks through the swamps, admired the cypress "knees" and all the abundant flora and fauna.

The grandchildren were particularly fond of this old man and he was quite willing to hang out and beg for a morsel or two of something tasty.

Swan Lake is one of our favorite parks and is home to eight species of swans. Other inhabitants of the park include the Canada Goose, myriad varieties of ducks, herons, turtles and fish. The park hosts an annual Iris festival. Camelias, Japanese tulip trees and a few other trees were blossoming. I love the eerie feel and shadows that the Cypress trees and Spanish Moss cast upon the black waters.

We are enjoying some lovely weather despite some terrific winds and a howling rainstorm or two. The grandchildren and I have some plans to build a fairy house or two on Friday...so do come back and take a look. Happy March Everyone!

(daughter#2 took the photos with a Canon powershot)

Have I done Any Good in the World Today?

2011-02-16T16:42:00.001-05:00

It is mid-week, I can say that I gratefully practice random acts of kindness. I can also say that I was unkind to my dear husband. It often surprises me that one can be so kind to strangers and then treat our loved ones badly. I have made up for any and all rudeness (sometimes it happens, we are together 24/7) and am forgiven. Be kind to yourself today and forgive yourself of any "misdeeds" , forgive those to whom you feel a grievance, you will feel better...I know!

So many people are hurting, some express this by being angry. So many people are grieving. Smile a little more. Be more patient even when that is the last thing you feel you can do. Each day passes by so quickly...at the end of the day, the week, the month, the year...can you honestly say, "I did something good or kind, thoughtful, generous"? The following hymn is a wonderful reminder of what each person can do to improve their lives and those around them. Whatever your belief system...the Golden Rule always applies!

Have I done any good in the world today?

Have I helped anyone in need?

Have I cheered up the sad and made someone feel glad?

If not, I have failed indeed.

Has anyone’s burden been lighter today

Because I was willing to share?

Have the sick and the weary been helped on their way?

When they needed my help was I there?

[Chorus]

Then wake up and do something more

Than dream of your mansion above.

Doing good is a pleasure, a joy beyond measure,

A blessing of duty and love.

There are chances for work all around just now,

Opportunities right in our way.

Do not let them pass by, saying, “Sometime I’ll try,”

But go and do something today.

’Tis noble of man to work and to give;

Love’s labor has merit alone.

Only he who does something helps others to live.

To God each good work will be known.

How is your week coming along. Do you need a hug or a big smile. Consider yourself (((hugged))) really tightly and I am sending you the biggest, brightest smile! Can you feel it? Can you see it? Go look in the mirror and smile, yeah, it looks something like that!!!

Creativity of a Very Random Nature

2011-02-10T15:11:00.000-05:00

We recently had the inside of the house painted. The rooms look so fresh, warm and inviting. Most of my efforts have been in the direction of restoring order. My friend Jayne says that in Feng Shui, you are to move about 27 objects a year. Well Jayne, I see your 27 and raise you 27 more! Nothing appears to be going back to its original location. Of course, then somebody wants new pillows, rugs or something! Somebody has been trying very, very hard not to purchase more "stuff". My creativity has leaked all over the house and I am tripping over it.

In January, my precious granddaughter had a beauty shop type birthday party at our house. Nonnee (that would be me) made the colorful headbands for each beauty to take home. The pattern can be found here and these are super simple to make. (I sewed the flower through the button and directly around the headband) I made a few for myself, using felt I already had and scrounging through my vintage and not so vintage buttons. The last week or so before a trip to the hair salon requires some creativity or the proper use of a hat, clips or headbands. My goal has been to be creative each day. I have been doodling, sketching and knitting. Some days getting a meal on the table has been all the effort I could put forth. My camera and I apparently need some time away from each other these cold, windy days. I am sure a reconciliation will occur as soon as the weather stays sunny for more than an hour. I am curious, are you more or less creative in the winter months?

Just a little reminder, Random Acts of Kindness week starts on February 14 ( a good day, eh?) I hear there are little "fairies of good will and cheer" out and about. I have been the recipient of these fabulous notecards by Diane English. I love her quirky sense of humor and fabulous art. AND I have already given Stickboy one of the cards which has made him all red in the face and gushy! Love is in the air.

If you have any fabulous, creative ideas...let me know what you are up to...Peace and Love ya'll!

Psst...can I share a secret?

2011-02-02T10:20:00.000-05:00

So I have been dreaming of toilets, yes you read that right the first time. The toilets in my dreams are not the beautiful, pristine white Kohler ones either. They are usually clogged up nasty ones with doors missing from stalls and really strange people staring at you from said stalls or sinks. It seems in my dream I am in search of a clean, private space to take care of business. The interwebs are such a wonderful research device. I searched out dream interpretations and it appears I am emotionally constipated. Who knew? From this site we learn, "If the toilet is overflowing, this symbolizes a blockage in eliminating difficult feelings and emotions in waking life." OR if you are literally dreaming of crap...Feces are a common dream symbol. A room filled with excrement that is filthy or uninhabitable is a warning that you are dealing with a lot of crap in your waking life. If it’s other people’s excrement, the dream is telling you that either you are sick of people who dump all of their personal and private issues on you or you are tired of dealing with someone’s crap. In my waking, daily life I am done with all that sort of thing, Release was last year's deal...we are done, remember?
Apparently my dream life has decided I still have work to do.

Speaking of toilets...here are a few for your consideration!

For a rustic, thronelike feel...

For those who share everything...

For those who like to go in style...

So my lovelies which dreams plague your otherwise beautiful slumber?

Planet Connie

2011-01-25T15:15:00.000-05:00

Hey Ya'll,

I haven't fallen off the planet...just been hanging out on my own little planet...they like me there! Spending lots of time daydreaming and planning projects, mulling over "stuff" I have no shortage of ideas. I proceed to go all manic and want to do everything at once usually when it is time to go to work. Yeah, I made a flower headband before I came to the office this morning! So I guess that counts as a Day 1 creative endeavor. I have spent the greater part of too much doggone time researching, reading and browsing "creativity" sites and books about being creative that I failed to notice I am creative every day. Although I should probably be less creative with my bookkeeping and accounting (that is a joke) So my loyal fans...stick around and I may just share some of my projects...I am seeing how much of my stash of art/craft supplies I can plow through without purchasing new stuff.

Birthday celebrations are still underway...since I started late...I plan to continue until about February or so.
Favorite riding in the car music this week...the soundtrack from "Wicked" It reminds me of the recent wonderful trip to NYC, the fabulous play at the Gershwin Theater, about how being different is not a bad thing, being popular is overrated, judging people = not good, defying gravity can be a good thing, to stand for something (or you will fall for anything) "people" in charge do not always have your best interests at heart...stay informed, the line in a song that states, "no good deed goes unpunished"...that was my friend Dot Dot's favorite comment!

It is a rainy, cold Winter day and I find I am missing my fallen comrads something terribly today. Sleep well my pretties until we meet again.

Excuse me, I must go find my sparkly ruby slippers...

Snowed In Day Two!

2011-01-11T11:36:00.000-05:00

We so rarely get snow in the South...the snow and ice virtually shut our state down. People rush to the store for bread and milk...I personally have a stash of chocolate...so I am good! As I was dozing and debating whether to get up I heard the sound of THUNDER and thought great...no snow day for us. I have never experienced thunder and snow. I awakened to a beautiful winter wonderland! Dear Husband and I had a good ole Southern breakfast after which he went downstairs to his man cave...I watched the multitudes of birds, watched Moe Kitty stalk said birds from his perch on the windowsill and took a few pictures. I read some of the book club selection and some magazines, did laundry and took a most needed, wonderful nap!

I noticed over on facebook that many of my friends were getting cabin fever...two days at home...oh my! Myself, I am thrilled to be home in my jammies...the cat and I are enjoying the birds, the silence (since dear husband went in to work) and the beauty of it all. I think many of my friends are entertaining children or teenagers...been there, done that...I can understand their restlessness with all the noise and mess!

I have chicken and rice with mushrooms on the stove...lots of warm beverages...a toasty fire...a quilt...plenty to read...Life is Good! All the responsibilities of work will soon take over but for now...I plan to enjoy being "snowed in".

Reflections of a Year Well Lived...Part 1

2010-12-29T13:31:00.000-05:00

New York State of Mind

All I want for Christmas is my Two Front Teef!

Annual Holiday Silly String Wars!

In the year 2010...imagine the music from the song in the year 2525 if man is still alive etc. It was a year of upheavel, challenges, bereavement and best of all Joy! This, the last week of 2010 many are pondering the whys and whats of the last year. Many will determine what changes need to be made...some will choose a word, a "watchword" if you will to determine intentions for the coming year. Release was the word I chose this past year...it caused me to work on some old thoughts, beliefs and it exhausted me. I will be entering the year 2011 with a lighter load! Who benefits from dragging old baggage around? So many of my friends have participated or will participate in choosing one word rather than a grocery list of resolutions. It is easy, think, ponder, pray...choose a word...throw some into a hat and let the word choose you. The word Grace is tickling my fancy right now...this is probably the word I will go with for 2011...the definition:

1. elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion, or action.

2. a pleasing or attractive quality or endowment.
3. favor or good will.
4. a manifestation of favor, esp. by a superior: It was only through the dean's grace that I wasn't expelled from school.
5. mercy; clemency; pardon: an act of grace.
6. favor shown in granting a delay or temporary immunity.
7. an allowance of time after a debt or bill has become payable granted to the debtor before suit can be brought against him or her or a penalty applied
8. Theology:
a. the freely given, unmerited favor and love of god.
b. the influence or spirit of God operating in humans to regenerate or strengthen them.
c. a virtue or excellence of divine origin: the Christian graces.
d. Also called state of grace. the condition of being in God's favor or one of the elect.
9. moral strength: the grace to perform a duty.
10. a short prayer before or after a meal, in which a blessing is asked and thanks are given.
11. ( usually initial capital letter ) a formal title used in addressing or mentioning a duke, duchess, or archbishop, and formerly also a sovereign (usually prec. by your, his, etc.).
12. Graces, Classical Mythology . the goddesses of beauty, daughters of Zeus and Eurynome, worshiped in Greece as the Charities and in Rome as the Gratiae.
13. Music . grace note.

Synonyms

1. attractiveness, charm, gracefulness, comeliness, ease. 4. kindness, kindliness, love, benignity; condescension. 5. lenity, leniency. 14. embellish, beautify, deck, decorate, ornament; enhance, honor.

What do you think? Will "Grace" be an easier choice for the coming year? Hmmmmmm...we'll see, won't we!

If I am not back sooner... Happy New Year my Lovely Friends!

Rest In Peace Dearest Mother

2010-12-16T11:22:00.000-05:00

Hazel Rebecca "Becky" Fogle June 4, 1930 - December 15, 2010 As we are saddened and mourn your passing...the Hallelujah Chorus plays for those you will reunite with in the Life beyond this one!

My husband and I will be taking in a little quiet time to reflect on the life of his beloved Mother. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers, particulary my sweet, gentle, tenderhearted husband. The Twenty third Psalm was being read as she passed the veil of this life into the next.

Psalm 23

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.

Mom, Granny, Becky, Hazel...mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, dear friend will be remembered for her beautiful smile and loving kindness. Til we meet again...

The Twelve Days of Christmas

2010-12-08T15:56:00.000-05:00

Hi My Lovelies...I am off to the Big Apple for shopping, shows, sightseeing and did I mention some shopping?! Dear Husband will be keeping the home fires burning brightly until I return.

I thought I would share the cost of the Twelve Days of Christmas for those of you looking for gift ideas!
The full list of gift prices for 2010 are as follows:

•One Partridge in a Pear Tree: $161.99

•Two Turtle Doves: $100

•Three French Hens: $150

•Four Calling Birds: $599.96

•Five Gold Rings: $649.95

•Six Geese-a-Laying: $150

•Seven Swans-a-Swimming: $5,600

•Eight Maids-a-Milking: $58

•Nine Ladies Dancing: $6,294.03

•10 Lords-a-Leaping: $4,766.70

•11 Pipers Piping: $2,356.20

•12 Drummers Drumming: $2,552.55

If you were to give all of these gifts in exactly the way that the song describes (as a true love, no doubt, would), you would spend $96,824 for all 364 gifts, a 10.8% increase compared to last year.

Have a safe and wonderful weekend!

It's Beginning to Look A Lot Like Christmas!

2010-12-06T09:37:00.000-05:00

~The Elf Code~

Treat Everyday like Christmas
There is Room for Everyone on the nice list
The best way to spread Christmas Cheer is singing loud for all to hear!

Once upon a time in the land of Princesses, Divas and Floozies there came a time of much prosperity and abundance. An idea was hatched and a proclamation declared...hear ye hear ye...we shall share the spirit of giving with others...we have enough already! Thus the Princesses, Divas and Floozies (who gather frequently throughout the year) charged the Princess of Quite A Lot with the task of shopping for a specially selected family. Shopping is done, gifts are wrapped and a GOOD TIME was had by all. And the Divas, Princesses and Floozies are attempting to live Happily Ever After.

The true spirit of Christmas comes from a love of mankind and from gifts that cannot be purchased. The Princesses, Divas and Floozies truly encourage those able to share their blessings and abundance to do so... many are in need. A smile, a nod or a simple courtesy may change someone's day for the better!

Yours truly was happily photojournaling our story...AND wrapping a gift or two myself...Cheers to All!

A Grateful and Happy Heart

2010-12-02T10:43:00.000-05:00

As we are flowing through the season of much giving, kindness and charity may we remember to always have that spirit throughout the year. I am grateful and blessed in so many ways. Trials and tribulations come and go...good friends and family are forever!

I have been a busy albeit injured Santa's helper! Apparently, yellow jackets have nests in the ground (who knew) and do not like it when you pull weeds and trim bushes around their nests...I'm just sayin...someone could win some money from the scene in my flower beds...flailing arms, tripping over light post, landing on rear end on sidewalk...numerous stings later...I am on antibiotics, steroids and anti don't scratch yourself to death medicine. I don't know whether to lie down and go to sleep or run around the block ten times!

Sunday's dinner welcomed most of our children, grandchildren, adopted parents, my mom and of course, yours truly and the dearest husband! We are not a Norman Rockwell depiction of any holiday. I like to refer to our gatherings as organized chaos. It works for us and we have a great time.

I purchased some cutout boys and girls to keep the grandchildren occupied...imagine my surprise and delight watching the grown up children design and color "people" with as much joy as the young children. It was a glorious day, not without a tear or two or a frustration or two...we prevailed with loving and thankful hearts.

I am still on a pay it forward/random acts of kindness mission...there is ALWAYS someone that needs an uplift! I like living a life that is filled with compassion, joy and giving with a dose of complaint free days (I am working on my part of living in a "Complaint Free World") I have a purple bracelet to remind me!

Peace and Love Ya'll!

P.S. someone is going to New York City with a group of gal pals...she is just a little bit giddy about it!
start spreading the news...I want to be a part of it...New York New York

My Brother's Keeper

2010-11-17T13:17:00.000-05:00

Traveling in the 60's with Dad! My younger brother James, always Jimmy to me. We were an inseparable pair until I started school.

I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother and I found all three. ~Author Unknown

Hi Bro,

I just noticed that the trim on your socks don't match. Ha Ha! I think you got that from Dad. I always wondered if he was color blind or if he wore some of those combinations just to annoy Mom. I called Mom a few minutes ago because today is difficult for her. We sure miss you. I was talking to my grandson about you and realized you have been gone for seven years and he just turned six. Maybe your spirits connected somewhere. He is quite a character and some kind of cute! The girls and I are going out for dinner tonight and we'll raise a toast to you and to everyone else we get to missing this time of year. I am somewhat dismayed to mention that I have not made it to Mt. Ranier yet. We plan a trip to the left coast, I mean West Coast next year. (Carl's friend Rick lives in Cali and he always calls it the left coast) I think some of your pals from the AT have already hiked the Pacific Coast area. I realized that while I do love to hike...I am not the one who will go into the woods for months (or even days) at a time. I will climb a portion of that mountain by proxy although I imagine you have a much better view of it than I do. Say hi to Dad, Dot Dot and everyone else...I love you...til we meet again.

Love, Your Big Sis

There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother. ~Astrid Alauda

Appalachian Trail - Springer Mountain, Georgia to Katahdin, Maine approximately 2179 miles. How many can say they have hiked this great Eastern trail or done it more than once?

Trail name: PapaSquat

September 30, 1961 - November 17, 2003

A Special Veteran

2010-11-11T13:06:00.000-05:00

Hi Dad,

Thinking of you today. You always looked so handsome in your full dress uniform. You were so proud to serve your country. You sacrificed time with family and your health for many, many people that didn't even appreciate what you were sworn to do. We appreciated you, always have, always will. I miss you...I have my "conversations" with you and there are times I would give anything to sit across a table from you. Sometimes (more often than not) a girl just needs her Dad! Thanks for being an awesome human! I know you have a great crowd to hang out with and I miss them as well. Til we meet again...I love you!

(July 24, 1934 - December 24, 1982)

2010-11-01T11:51:00.000-04:00

Wild Geese

You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

love what it loves.

Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain

are moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,

the world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting--

over and over announcing your place

in the family of things.

This poem by Mary Oliver really speaks to me as it does to many, many other people! I love what I love and have quit making apologies for who I am or who I am striving to be. Impossible to believe that it is November, the year 2010 is winding down...it has been quite the rollercoaster ride for me. I have been choosing a word of the year for several years now. Boy, Howdy...did the word Release really stir up some interesting dirt. I am tired albeit in a very good way...shifting through all the "stuff" that no longer works in my life is painful, exhausting yet exhilirating! I am coming out the other end with a better knowlege of my loves, my purpose for me, my family and my world. Currently pondering my word for 2011...a cautionary tale...be careful of your chosen word...it may put you to work in a BIG way!

I am happy knowing I am a mass of contradictions, aren't we all. What have you learned this year and are you totally grateful for having that experience?

The Road More Frequently Traveled

2010-10-25T08:48:00.000-04:00

Often you get to blaze your own path...

Sometimes...

you follow the marked path!

In My Kitchen and On My Nightstand

2010-10-21T11:22:00.000-04:00

Not so long ago I read a book called The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake. Rose can taste the emotions of those cooking and baking. Curse or Charm? Hmmm...I often bake when I have something to work out. Lately, I have been on a cake baking binge which is hilarious given that I am also attending Weight Watchers!

Tonight we have book club. One of our former members moved to Alabama and as it was not feasible for us to travel...we are reviewing the book she selected, Before Women Had Wings by Connie Mae Fowler AND I baked her recipe for a Mississippi Mud Cake. It is OH SO DECADENT! My rationale, apart from honoring a friend, is that this book is so raw and tragic yet compelling that we DESERVE chocolate.

In between episodes of Top Chef, Just Desserts...I prepared Chaos in the Kitchen's Chicken Salad and Trish's Mississippi Mud Cake and Kerry's Orange Balls. My darling husband tried one of the orange balls, sighed and as he sat in the living room said to me, "I hear those orange balls calling me " He is my biggest fan!

I have realized that I am a FOODIE. I love cookbooks, cooking shows, fine dining and experimenting in my own kitchen. Offering up something fabulous to friends and family says, YOU matter...I care...I love you.
Sometimes we prepare a meal or bake a cake because that is what we do as a kindness in times of trouble or grief or stress or even a new birth.

Baking is a little like magic and I like a little bit of magic in my days. When asked why she always baked with the window open, Julia said "I am calling to someone" (paraphrased from The Girl Who Chased the Moon) Serendipitously, (cue Twilight Zone music) the Hummingbird Cake was baked and pink hair extensions attached prior to reading that magical book and Eric made a version of Mississippi Mud Cake on Just Desserts while I was frosting mine. How is that for Woo Woo? What special treat beckons your friends and family?

MISSISSIPPI MUD CAKE

1 1/2 c. flour
3 tbsp. cocoa
1 c. butter
2 c. sugar
1 tsp. vanilla
4 eggs
1 1/2 c. chopped pecans
1 (3 1/2 oz.) can flaked coconut
1 (7 oz.) jar marshmallow creme

Grease and flour 9x13 pan and set aside. Mix flour and cocoa together; set aside. Beat butter for 30 seconds to soften. Add sugar and vanilla, beating until fluffy. Add eggs. Beat in flour mixture. Stir in pecans and coconut. Turn mixture into prepared pan. Bake at 350 for 35 minutes. While cake is still hot, spread with marshmallow creme. Cool completely and add icing.

MISSISSIPPI MUD ICING:

1/2 c. butter
4 c. sifted powdered sugar
1/2 c. cocoa
1/2 c. evaporated milk
1 tsp. vanilla

Magic Monday - A Little of This and A Little of That

2010-10-11T12:52:00.000-04:00

Time sure does fly when you are having fun!

Salon Bella is doing pink hair extensions and ribbons for the Susan G. Komen for the Cure Foundation. My daughter and I now have pink hair. I am digging it and thinking this may be a new trend for me! October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. A hair extension and a ribbon is a very small thing done with a heart full of love and honor for our friends who have/had breast cancer. Ladies...early detection is the key! Please, please feel your boobies and get a mammogram.

As many of my friends know I have a love for the arts (of every sort) I was visiting my granddaughter's dance class on Thursday and there amidst the wee dancers was one teeny, tiny girl with natural, beautiful talent. Sadly, her parents are unable to afford dance lessons for her or her sister. I am pondering a solution to this...maybe a little chat with the studio's owner will provide a way to enable talented children an opportunity to participate. After my hair appointment on Saturday, I had the VW Beetle washed at the Palmetto Dance Center's car wash to support the dancers' competitions. It was heartwarming to see even the youngest student washing cars to earn money. I think most things are appreciated more when they are earned.

After the car washing, it was a trip to the local grocery store. Spending what seemed like a small fortune...I returned home to bake a Hummingbird Cake for our church Boy Scout Bake Sale. I encouraged my darling husband to purchase the cake from the bake sale for our family get together on Sunday thus contributing to the boy scouts, my ego and Sunday dinner! It was a delightful, busy weekend filled with service, fun and family!

Here is my lunch today...EVERYONE is out of the office and I am here with Hummingbird Cake!!! I am counting it as a fruit...it has lots of bananas and pineapple in it...that is my story and I AM sticking to it.

I first heard about Hummingbird Cake from the lovely Christina. Apparently it is one of Southern Living's most requested recipes of all time. It is definitely scrumptious! What is there not to love about a cake full of goodness with cream cheese frosting? The recipe can be found here.

So my pretties, have a lovely day...enjoy the beautiful weather...celebrate if you have the day off...you know what? Just celebrate!!!

Happy Fall Ya'll

2010-09-23T12:50:00.000-04:00

What I love about Autumn...

*Nature adorns herself in a splendid array of colors* a cool crispness is in the morning air and night draws near earlier and earlier*soup and homemade bread*pumpkins*root vegetables*Halloween*Mums in a riot of color displayed on the stoop*crispy, crunchy leaves underfoot*boyfriend sweaters or cardigans*crazy socks and danskos*scarves*jumping onto cold sheets and cuddling*reading by lamplight*maybe a fire or two*firepits*toasted marshmallows*ghost stories*birds migrating*quilts*knitting*hayrides*country drives*

The night sky is so clear and lovely. I pointed out the beautiful moon to my granddarling Anna and she says,
"that isn't the moon that's LUNA! Of course I thought she was too cute and the most clever of little girls. Sweet Anna looks very much like her mom and aunt in the photo above. She is excited to be visiting a pumpkin patch soon and I wax nostalgic because it is the same one we always visited when "my girls" were small.

Autumn is a very reflective time for me, a day dreamy, wistful, wishing time. I think of Oktoberfest in Germany and how I would love to visit my relatives in the tiny village of my birth.

I have been thinking of the song with the words "Would you rather swing on star, carry moonbeams home in jar..." Here's a little doodle drawn while at my desk being totally non productive (thank goodness I am really sorta my own boss) I am ready for a weekend of "piddling" and homecaring and cooking.

So I wish for you a weekend of "piddling, dreaming and wishing" Maybe you will swing on a star or find some moonbeams! Happy Fall Ya'll

Blog Book Tour!

2010-09-15T12:32:00.001-04:00

Patti Digh, Author Extraordinaire!

What if you only had 37 days left to live on this Earth...what would you do...where would you go...who would you see? I first became aware of Patti's work on her blog 37 Days. She urges everyone to fully experience life in the present moment. Rent the RED convertible! Burn those Jeans! Unpack your Boxes! Love unlovable People! Her essays were compiled to become a book which I absolutely adore and use regularly called "Life is a Verb: 37 Days to Wake Up, Be Mindful, and Live Intentionally"

Patti's regular posts on Facebook are funny, wise and inspiring. She mentioned at one time that she was holed up in a hotel room writing a book on post it notes. Regular fans gave a little chuckle. "Four Word Self Help" was the book born out of that effort. As she says, "life is complex, not complicated" The simple four word missives speak directly to the heart and are illustrated by artists from around the world. Patti extends an open invitation to artists everywhere to contribute their art for possible use in her books. Also, here is where I come in...copies of her newest book were sent out to bloggers for a Blog Book Tour. How cool is that!! She truly embraces creating your own tribe. How often do we experience someone that truly "walks the talk"?

Did I mention the huge laugh the UPS guy received when he handed me the package containing my precious copy of Four Word Self Help ? I was a teeny bit excited! I held it for a moment, looked at the beautiful art, read a little...put it down...picked it up...read a little more. It is a beautiful testament to life, to all that is simple and good. Patti's gift for telling her story and our story shines throughout the pages of this gem. It will be my go to gift for birthdays and other special events.

a few favorites:

catch someone who's falling

write more love letters

leave some things undone

give up itchy clothes

stand up for something

blow bubbles more often

Here is an excerpt that really spoke to me:

"Life is incremental. Each day's decisions add to the decisions of the day before; each action taken adds to the events of the days past. As writer Oscar Wilde has said, 'No man is rich enough to buy back his past'. No, maybe not. But we can create a different future-one simple, beautifully mundane, daily decision at a time"

More information about Patti Digh can be found here

Her newest book, "Creative is a Verb, If You're Alive, You're Creative" is available at Amazon.com and will be available at local bookstores by November 2010.

Gift of Jewels, Gift of Friends Part II

2010-09-03T10:34:00.000-04:00

As I mentioned in my previous post, I am participating in the Gift of Jewels hosted by the ever lovely Se'Lah of Necessary Room. I was and am delighted with these absolutely beautiful cards from Joanna at The Fifty Factor. To quote Joanna's note to me, "The blog community is filled with extraordinary people from around the world" One can catch a glimpse of the fascinating lives of wonderful people throughout the world. Though thousands of miles separate us physically... our hearts and minds are connected! We enter various blogs as strangers and leave as friends. I think that is pretty cool. Sometimes my cyber buddies "get me" better than anyone else...interesting...huh! These cards are so beautiful...it will be difficult to part with them...a heartfelt thank you Joanna!

My Gift of Jewels is heading out of the United States and traveling North! I will post pictures once my new friend receives her jewel.

The Blog-o-sphere is a place of learning, a place of gladness, sadness and mostly it is Community. A magical place where a person can locate her "tribe". Namaste dear ones.

Gift of Jewels Gift of Friendship

2010-08-20T10:39:00.000-04:00

When things seem to be looking down and happy is hard to find, the Universe or for me, God steps in and sends the right people at the right time. People that enjoy your company (just the way you are) and do not expect anything from you just good conversation and laughter. God knows I needed the postive support and love. My darling husband has been remarkable (as usual). The only downside would be the fabulous meals that I have been forced to eat! I amazed by the outpouring of love and friendship, both in real life and in cyberspace. I have been astounded to realize just how many lovely people I have come to know. Making new friends is fabulous...my friends from Nia class...my cyber buddies...my husband's friends from grade school and high school. Nuturing older friendships from my neighborhood (we laughed until we had tears in our eyes) Book clubs friends reading Eat, Pray, Love and watching the movie...having an intense craving for Italian food after. "Floozie friends" that love you fiercely enough to allow sadness and step in to offer support and comfort. So thanks to all my beautiful friends!

My dear friend, Se'Lah of Necessary Room is hosting another round of "The Gift of Jewels" This will mark the third time I have participated in this wonderful outpouring of love and friendship around the globe. I am so excited to plan something to mail to my "newest" friend. I have met a very funny Mamma of four grown sons and a beautiful, creative spirit in Denmark both of whom share parts of their lives with me as a result of Se'Lah's love, generosity and giving spirit.

I am filled with gratitude and humility and IT IS ALL GOOD!!!

p.s. the above photo is a postcard I received through Postcrossing.

To Forgive or Not Forgive?

2010-08-17T14:55:00.000-04:00

emp·ty [ émptee ]

containing nothing: not containing or holding anything, unoccupied, uninhabited, unfilled, etc. etc.

Experiencing some serious betrayal has left me feeling a little tired, shell shocked and empty. I like my place to be a place of love, joy, compassion and lots of happy...with the occasional snark thrown in for fun. The actions of others remind me that one must always look inside to find the full measure of one's worth! Everything happens for a reason and there is always a lesson to be learned. I am working on an attitude of forgiveness, praying and meditating on what that means. My thoughts go round in circles and lead me in many directions, along with forgiveness comes the philosophy surrounding the word UBUNTU...I Am Because You Are...We are all connected to a larger whole.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu offered a definition

A person with Ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu further explained Ubuntu in 2008:

One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu - the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can't exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can't be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality - Ubuntu - you are known for your generosity.

We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole world. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.

So when I offend, I am sorry and seek forgiveness...when offended I offer forgiveness whether it is sought or not.

The Bible teaches us that we are to forgive over and over and over and over. The "Golden Rule" suggests we treat others as we wish to be treated.

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." Paul Boese.

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi

and for those of you that like a little snark with your diet coke:

"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much." Oscar Wilde

After turning the other cheek, the best "revenge" is to live a happy life surrounded by those that love and care for you...even with a foible or two!

Flashback Friday - Some Days a Diamond, Some Days a Stone!

2010-07-30T10:22:00.000-04:00

Sometimes...you reach the top and you feel like this...

And sometimes...you feel like if you can't see them...they can't see you...sometimes...solitude is golden

sometimes...contemplation and pondering are the order of the day...and sometimes...you just need your friends!

Happy End of July to You!!!

May All Beings be Free from Suffering

2010-07-28T12:50:00.001-04:00

Bumper Sticker seen yesterday: May all beings be free from Suffering.

Everyone suffers at one point or another in their lives...for some their day to day existence is threatened. I am happy to know folks that go above and beyond to advocate for the hungry, homeless, abused, poverty stricken masses.

I would like to introduce you to my friend Kelly...teacher of special needs students, professional photographer, muralist, pottery freak, all around doer of Good plus she is a great mother and a good friend!

Kelly has recently returned from another mission trip to Costa Rica. During that time, her group made repairs and painted murals at an orphanage. They brought shoes and gifts to the children. Kelly's sons asked how many "orphans" she would bring back to live with them. She has captured many striking photographs that are displayed in galleries and used to get the message out to each of us to help children the world over.

She has given me permission to use some of her photographs on this blog. Others can be seen at Kelly Crayne Photography (website and on facebook)

Most homes consisted of dirt floors, old boards and tin for roofs. Food was and is scarce. Let us not forget the suffering masses around the world. A small effort from each person is like the ripple effect in a pond.

If you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

Mother Teresa

Let us keep the tide of humanitarian aid and effort going. Each person can do something. One thing. Join me!

Playing with Food

2010-07-26T14:06:00.000-04:00

Earthfare's special, purchase 1 pound of heirloom tomatoes and receive mozzarella and basil free. Hmmmm...what to make? I purchased some organic vine tomatoes and plenty of heirlooms for a special project. What to do when faced with so many varieties and colors...play with your food!

Heirloom tomato, heirloom rosary (missing cross due to an uncle's trip to pawn shop) coral beads with sterling silver.

Playing with the tomatoes in the herb garden...oregano looks a little "seeded out"

Oh Tomato, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways!

tomato, basil, mozzarella salad with a balsamic vinegarette dressing...YUM!!!

Weighing in...postal scales dating to when you could mail a letter for 2 cents...considering more tomato possibilities...fresh tomato juice, tomato, basil, mozzarella pizza, tomato pie, tomato salad, tomato soup, marinara sauce, tomato basil pasta, fried green tomatoes, salsa, preparing jars of tomatoes for winter...ooooh, ooooh the deliciousness goes on and on...tomatoes, love em or leave em?

So, Sew

2010-07-19T13:05:00.001-04:00

A silly little tale for sure...many of you know I suffer from bouts of insomnia. During one of those sleepless, let me see what is on the boob tube at 3 a.m. moments I purchased a sewing machine. She who hasn't "sewn" in a very long time. (baby stuff circa 1981 - 1984) The sewing machine, at least I assumed it was a sewing machine stayed in the box in the home office for probably 3 months at which time I thought I should make sure I had indeed purchased a sewing machine...breathe...establishing that it was in fact a sewing machine it went back into closet sans boxes. Fast forward to the present day and time...I have an obsession...I adore quilts... I now wish to make a quilt or ten. The fabric is purchased, the sewing machine is "set up" and I must learn how to operate the computerized version! We won't discuss how much time was spent ogling and touching fabric or thinking about quilt patterns. I plan things very well...it is the starting and finishing that is problematic for this lifelong procrastinator. I am pretty sure I suffer from an adult attention deficit disorder or a scattered memory disorder. I may start something in one room and go to another room for an item and get started on something else and remember there is a project going on in the other room...you see it is Monday already.

Wish me lots o luck. I will be under or around a pile of fabrics and lots of delicious sewing implements!

Simple

2010-07-16T09:27:00.000-04:00

“The simplest things are often the truest.”

Richard Bach quotes (American Writer, author of 'Jonathan Livingston Seagull', b.1936)

Se'Lah of Necessary Room is hosting a Simple Things Birthday Party for the lovely Christina!

Throw the doors open, light the candles, sip a cooling beverage, have some cake...today we honor and celebrate the most beautiful Christina of Soul Aperture. She the amazing, wise, gifted writer, photographer and all around beautiful spirit makes the simple celestial. Simple things for you Christina...your spirit has reached out and touched my spirit...One Love! I wish for you...

all the beauty of the earth and sky

cherry juice running fingertips to elbows from the plumpest, juiciest cherries

treasures from the shore and wood

a heartfelt laugh that radiates throughout the entire body

a hand in yours

a delicious cup of tea or two in mismatched cups and saucers

a postcard or letter in the mailbox

rain on your skin

sun on your face and hair

a soft place to land

books of every sort

baking smells in the kitchen

flowers, oh yes lots of flowers on your counters

bubbles

peace and love

hugs and joy

friends who "get" you

everything that is good, lovely and praiseworthy!

Happy Birthday! May all your dreams and wishes come true!

I am turning to Rust!

2010-07-12T14:00:00.000-04:00

I have experienced numerous paper cuts in my life. No big! This last paper cut was apparently the Mother of all paper cuts! I bled profusely on my desk until I could grab a tissue after which I snagged a "band aid" and was good to go. As I was taking a shower I removed the band aid and noticed this lovely stripe of rusty color around my thumb. I scrubbed and scrubbed to no avail. It is Monday and I still have a rusty ring around my thumb after many, many hand washings. I have NO CLUE what this is about or when it will go away!!! Anyone out there care to guess? I did check the packaging on the band aids thinking just maybe they contained iodine or some such ingredient...nope.

I switched to a platinum wedding ring because my gold engagement ring/band set caused my fingers to turn a very dark black. I can wear earrings and necklaces with no reaction. So What's up. Somebody has to have an idea...I do not for sure!

Since Men O Pause is such an ornery old cow I can only assume the weirdness that seems to be the norm rather than the exception is a result of that beast. and because this image is soooooo accurate I will share it yet again...welcome to my itchy, b*&chy, psycho...life! We laugh because it is more fun than crying.

In other late breaking, exciting news...I am declaring a television fast! Do you ever have periods whereupon you just watch absolutely too much junk? Mind numbing stuff. Train wreck stuff...you are repulsed but cannot look away stuff. And then she says to herself, " I sure am having some strange dreams" One cannot eat Gummi Bears for supper, watch "True Blood" and expect to sleep well...really! If you are looking for me I am NOT on the couch watching the mind splatterer.

Happy Birthday to the Dalai Lama

2010-07-06T14:40:00.000-04:00

The Dalai Lama celebrates his 75th birthday in his adopted town of Dharamsala, India. The Dalai Lama of Tibet has been in exile since 1959, as long as I have been alive. His messages of peace, hope, compassion and simplicity benefit all humankind. Se'Lah of Necessary Room is hosting a Random Act of Kindness Day in honor of the Dalai Lama's birthday. She inspires me to be a better person and in her words practice...One Love! Join us today...one random act of kindness...you will like it, I promise! Following are some of my favorite quotes by the Dalai Lama:

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.

Where ignorance is our master, there is no possibility of real peace

Whether one believes in a religion or not, and whether one believes in rebirth or not, there isn't anyone who doesn't appreciate kindness and compassion.

Part of my life's philosophy is to practice kindness as much as I possibly can on any given day. My random act of kindness occurred by accident or divine chance...as I was paying for sandwiches for my husband and me, an extra sandwich was added to my bill...I turned to the lady behind me and said "Have a nice day" she said "are you sure?" I said, "Yes, and just pass it forward" Hopefully, she will... Happy Birthday Dalai Lama...we draw strength from your example of love, peace, perseverance and light! One Love.

Fear of Flying

2010-07-05T08:31:00.001-04:00

Mike and Rhetta take a spin while I stand on the deck and watch...what is wrong with this picture???

Ding, ding, ding...you are right I AM NOT in the plane! I allowed my fear of heights and tight places to keep me grounded. Our gracious host piloted any guest that desired a ride! Literally, I am not afraid of flying...I just prefer larger aircraft! Figuratively, I am often afraid of "flying"... moving outside the zone which is comfortable and secure. I am kinda tired of taking the safe, easy way. Ask me again...I will say YES!
YES to flying in teeny, tiny aircraft...YES to taking new adventures...all EXCEPT the ones involving bridges and elastic cords.

What about you? Are you planning something adventuresome, something new, something exciting? Do tell!

Just Peachy!

2010-06-29T10:15:00.000-04:00

Peaches, Peaches, get your freestone peaches! This was the sound that could be heard echoing through the stands once upon a time. Peach season is here. Time to make peach ice cream, peach sorbet, peach cobbler and peach jelly (my mom's favorite) It is also the new season of Top Chef which always invites me to be more creative in the kitchen. Recently, I prepared a peach salsa to be served atop grilled Mahi Mahi.

2 cups peaches, 1 sweet onion or 1/2 red onion (my fav), dash of cider vinegar or lime (needs a little acid) 2 tablespoons maple syrup, a small piece of fresh ginger finely minced (or a shake of ground ginger) toss in blender and serve over fish.

*tip* if you use the blender make sure your peaches are not overly ripe. I prefer a chunkier consistency and may just chop everything next time rather than blending. The onions can be left out if you prefer to use it as a dessert topping. P.S. I take full credit if your salsa is delicious...if not, well okay...it wasn't an exact recipe!

I love cookbooks, however, I rarely follow the recipes exactly (except when baking) or I make something like the peach salsa with no recipe. There are many fabulous websites with a variety of recipes. I plan to can peach jelly in the next day or two.

Several, very near and dear to my heart, ladies taught me the basics of canning fruits and vegetables. It is a labor intensive process however the sense of satisfaction over a row of freshly "canned" produce on the counter is immeasurable!

So thanks Betty for teaching Dot and me how to make pepper jelly and peach jelly. Sadly, we lost Dot to ovarian cancer several years ago. My dear Betty resides in a nearby nursing home and I am keeper of the memories.

WHEN/THEN

2010-06-24T10:09:00.001-04:00

Are you pining away for an exotic vacation, an exciting life, playing the WHEN _______ happens THEN I can _______. My friend Jayne and I always have the very best conversations during dinner. Jayne is so very well read, remembers everything and has taught psychology at the college level for a very long time. We have delicious conversations and the food isn't bad either! She recently joked (maybe) that she should start a WHEN/THEN support group. Are you guilty of when/then thinking? I certainly am. She reminded me and several others that if you do not follow up on your dream you may see, for example, your idea for a book written by someone else. I think she would have a LOT of takers on the when/then group. It was a poignant reminder that each moment is significant...that once it passes...it is lost. Do we/I really want to spend those precious moments in time playing the WHEN/THEN game?

Two of the granddarlings recently spent the entire weekend with me...apart from a beautiful shiner and pure exhaustion...we had a lot of fun! They remind me of those precious moments in time when a sprinkler system and a puddle of water rivals any grand resort...when the ordinary becomes extraordinary!

Children live in the moment. Absolutely no WHEN/THEN thinking for them. How about you?

2010-06-23T10:28:00.000-04:00

Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.
"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

So which one will you choose to feed? Sometimes, we feed "evil" unintentionally or unconsciously.

photo credit: p> Native Americans
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Calling all Winners!

2010-06-21T10:50:00.000-04:00

A winner has been declared in the Apple Pancake and Cookbook giveaway! My grandchildren thought everyone should be selected as they kept pulling names out of the hat. How could you look at this face and not come up with a consolation prize or two?

In the spirit of fun...Sherrie of Good News is the winner of this...

And in other good news...

Kristi and Carrie will receive something suitably SOUTHERN!

Thanks to everyone for playing along.

The granddarlings and I had a great weekend with lots of bubbles, water play, a trip to the vet and a beautiful shiner for me...that my friends is a story for another time!

G.R.I.T.S Cooking and Apple Pancakes Giveaway!

2010-06-15T11:26:00.000-04:00

If you don't like grits...you don't know one or haven't had them prepared correctly! (it is not just a breakfast food...Girls Raised In The South)

Mr. Darling Husband whisked me away on an extended weekend mini vacation. Just enough notice was given to reserve the Aunt Dee suite at The Baird House Bed and Breakfast located in Valle Crucis, North Carolina. We had a delightful stay...Tom and Deede are so generous and gracious...the food was absolutely delicious. In the spirit of sharing such an abundance of Joy, Adventure, Beauty and darn good food...I am hosting my FIRST ever blog giveaway contest. So spread the word to make it more fun...leave a comment here or on facebook...what was your favorite unplanned event, trip or day...My grandkids will pick a name out of a hat on Father's Day and perhaps you will enjoy the following treats! Seasons at The Baird House cookbook, stoneground buckwheat, whole wheat pancake mix, a pampered chef trivet and a few little surprises!

Mr. Darling Husband is a bacon, eggs truck driver breakfast kind of guy. He raved and raved about the German Pancake with apples! Other samplings included in the cookbook...hashbrown casserole, creamy eggs with dill (rapturous expression), homemade buttermilk biscuits with homemade apple butter made from the apples on the 200 year old apple tree outside the window of the Aunt Dee room. AND one of my favorite amenities...the cookie jar is always full with the BEST chocolate chip cookies ever and a butter pecan pound cake is always on the sideboard in addition to tea, cocoa and other beverages!

These apples are on the 200 year old apple tree!

Ya'll join in for some good ole fashioned southern hospitality and charm!

p.s. This cookbook is chock full of anecdotes, tidbits and history...all sorts of goodies.

A Thought for Thursday

2010-06-03T11:38:00.001-04:00

Sometimes...You are the One Watching AND Sometimes...You are the One Being Watched!!!

"What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say." – Ralph Waldo Emerson

A Revolution of Kindness

2010-06-01T13:00:00.000-04:00

"If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other." Mother Teresa

I am very curious to know if you participate in random acts of kindness. Is it a natural part of your existence to be kind and giving? Or do you get busy, have good intentions or just forget? When I am in an expansive

mood being kind and giving comes very naturally to me without any actual forethought. When I am feeling shrinky (whiny, self centered etc) it is harder to be kind. Some actions are automatic for some people, opening and holding doors for others...picking up dropped items...allowing someone to merge into traffic...simple things. When I serve others my world expands and I feel great. As I said, this usually comes naturally to me, lately I have been feeling a little snarky and small...so with a little prompt from the Care 2 folks and this article in particular...I am joining the kindness revolution...29 acts of kindness for 29 days! The author of the article was prompted by a book entitled "29 Gifts". The following is a little insight as to how the book and the kindness revolution was launched.

“At age 33 Cami Walker, the author of 29 Gifts, was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and the life she knew changed forever. When she was going through some of her most difficult symptoms, she received an uncommon prescription from a friend, an African medicine woman named Mbali Creazzo: Give away 29 gifts in 29 days. Cami was amazed by what unfolded during her month-long journey.”

A friend of mine from blogland did something similar to this a year or so ago and for the most part found it to be quite easy to accomplish however did run into a snag or two on occasion. I think the biggest thing to remember is that "a gift" does not have to cost money. If you live in the spirit of love and giving, the spirit will prompt you to know what to do and when to do it. Personally, when the spirit prompts I listen.

My friend Christy of Christy Peake Photography (she also has a facebook page) captured some adorable best friend moments between her daughter and my granddaughter. Christy captures the essence of her subjects. She puts her whole heart into everything she does and is so generous with her talents. I thought it very fitting that one of her photos should appear in a post about Kindness!!!

Join me...29 days...29 "gifts" (or random acts of kindness)...29 suggestions below...or leave a suggestion for me!

*make that phone call*send an email just to say hi*sincerely compliment someone*smile often, sometimes that is all someone needs*bake cookies and leave them with a note or anonymously for a neighbor*cut your elderly neighbor's grass or water their lawn*bring flowers to a co-worker (secretly is more fun)*leave chocolate on your partner's pillow*sweet notes in a lunchbag*give someone a heart attack (cut out lots of hearts and festoon their space or car with them) *prepare a casserole for some very busy family*be the water/lemonade mom/person in the neighborhood*child care is always appreciated*pick up litter*donate pet food to the animal shelter*visit the nursing home...everyone goes at Christmas...some elderly do not have local family*offer prayers or postive thoughts*open/hold the door*buy breakfast*put a candy jar on your desk and SHARE*help your friend organize something*help someone pack for a move, offer to take stuff to Goodwill for them*take a friend or neighbor's pet for a walk (or play)*run errands*plant herbs in a pot and give to your favorite cook*clip articles you enjoy and pass them on to someone with the same interests*comment on someone's blog to encourage their writing*buy that starving artist's work, you know you love it*give that spare change away*leave a note in a library book that you enjoyed*SMILE OFTEN*
oops, more than 29...oh well...what will you do?

"Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."

Mother Teresa

A Little of This and A Little of THAT

2010-05-26T13:22:00.000-04:00

"If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun"

"If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased"

"never complain, never explain"

I have spent a greater part of my life being a people pleaser. What I have learned is this...you can't please everyone. K.I.S.S. - keep it simple stupid - I am a slow learner! I am not an advocate for being selfish and inconsiderate. That being said you can only show up in the world and do your best.

I admire brave and gutsy women. Many I am happy to call my friends. Bend the rules, live out loud, live by the spirit of the law rather than the letter of the law women!

I cry often and easily for any number of reasons and am thankful for a release valve. If I kept those emotions tucked away I would explode for sure! Just shed a tear or two (happy or sad) I will be right there with you sharing a hankie or two.

I traveled a lot as a child - preteen...my parents allowed me to purchase postcards as a treat. I recently located those postcards and many that were sent to me from friends traveling. I stumbled across Postcrossing and have renewed a childhood interest. The joy of discovering a postcard from a friend you haven't met yet in lands distant or near is the biggest smile across your face kind of JOY.

I have a love/hate relationship with photography. I love to capture unusual pictures. There is so much to learn and my time seems so limited. A picture tells a thousand words. I can look at flickr photostreams all day long and wonder.

Being creative is an essential part of my day.

I totally enjoy all aspects of ART...participating and observing.

I do what I must to amuse myself...I enjoy my own company...A LOT!

I can be very cranky when I do not get the solititude I crave.

I am an observer and explorer...curiosity killed the cat...satisfaction brought it back!!!

My blogging friend, Connie sent me an award and this prompted a rather free form exploitation of the "rules" if you would like the award feel free to share nine less known things about yourself and let me know!

Many thanks to my friends and family and others that drop in to visit. I hope you enjoy your stay.

p.s. I am loving the Katherine Hepburn stamps, hoping the local post office has some and maybe, if you want I will send a surprise your way...just let me know in the comments or email.

The Chemistry of Color

2010-05-12T14:37:00.000-04:00

" I have always tried to paint the way poets write their best poems with feeling, imagination and some semblance of the shape shifting truth" Edward Hughes

Tar Beach (quilt) Artist: Faith Ringgold..."Any one can Fly...all you need is somewhere to go that you can't get to any other way...the next thing you know you're flying among the stars.

I took myself on an Artist's Date (The Artist's Way) rather unintentionally. I realized that The Chemistry of Color exhibit would be leaving our town after Mother's Day and I really did not want to miss it. Some of the paintings took my breath away, gave me goose bumps and reduced me to tears...the raw emotion in the art was that poignant! If this exhibit comes to your city or town or nearby, I highly recommend putting it on your list of things to see. You can read a review of the exhibit here This is an exhibit of African American artists with many of the artists not relishing that title. Most prefer their art to stand on its own...art for art's sake without the separating nomenclature. The exhibit included paintings, drawings, photography, quilts, sculpture and mixed media. My cell phone was burning a hole in my pocket as I longed to take photos of my favorites, however it can be damaging to the art and the museum police were there to make sure I was tempted even less.

As a frustrated artist (or wannabe) I appreciate the work, talent and soul that goes into each piece of art. It takes a great deal of courage to "put yourself out there" I had an opportunity to submit art for possible publication in two different books...this is what I learned...I am not good with deadlines...that the FEAR of rejection paralyzed every creative bone in my body (or either I was entirely too critical) and THAT FEAR manifested itself in the form of ill health. Oh yes, everything is connected. A couple of quotes by some of the artists really stayed with me, their stories and their vision inspired me. "Time is not important as an artist, you should just let it unfold" this was an Eastern proverb (?) quoted as a favorite by Earl B. Lewis.

One of my favorite singers, songwriters, mentors, (she wears many hats) Christine Kane, says basically that you just have to show up. If you are lacking courage, Christine has an excellent e-zine/blog post: 52 Ways to Build Your Courage that can be found here. So what would you create if you knew you would not fail?

"My art is about what I make as opposed to what I think about what I should make" Raymond Saunders

She's Come Undone

2010-05-10T12:25:00.001-04:00

The Guess Who nailed my 2010 with the perfect lyrics. I only take issue with the lines that say It was too late. It is never too late! At least I sincerely hope not. I am currently either bipolar or highly hormonal so I am thinking I need to go into the shop for some minor repairs and adjustments...see you on the flip side!
(a little sand, sun and ocean is a cure for most anything!)

She's come undone

She didn't know what she was headed for

And when I found what she was headed for

It was too late

She's come undone

She found a mountain that was far too high

And when she found out she couldn't fly

It was too late

It's too late

She's gone too far

She's lost herself

She's come undone

She wanted truth but all she got was lies

Came the time to realize

And it was too late

She's come undone

She didn't know what she was headed for

And when I found what she was headed for

Mama, it was too late

It's too late

She's gone too far

She's lost herself

She's come undone

Na, na na na na na na

Too many mountains

And not enough stairs to climb

Too many churches

And not enough truth

Too many people

And not enough eyes to see

Too many lives to lead

And not enough time

It's too late

She's gone too far

She's lost herself

She's come undone

Doh doh doh doh ....

It's too late

She's gone too far

She's lost herself

She's come undone

She didn't know what she was headed for

And when I found what she was headed for

It was too late

She's come undone

She found a mountain that was far too high

And when she found out she couldn't fly

Mama, it was too late

It's too late

She's gone too far

She's lost herself

She's come undone

Doh doh doh doh doh doh doh doh

Baby, You Can Drive My Car...Beep Beep'm Yeah!

2010-05-05T13:55:00.000-04:00

Baby you can drive my Car

Yes I'm Gonna Be A Star

Baby you can drive my car

And maybe I'll love you

Beep, beep'm, beep beep Yeah!

Several of my blogosphere friends have wondered just what I drive that gets me in so much trouble. Is it apparent that my car is smirking and saying "Can you Handle This." This sleek darling was a combination Christmas/Birthday gift from my sweet husband. It a six speed manual transmission (really, who would want an automatic sportscar?) Porsche Carrera. It has a rear engine and a minuscule backseat (you would fit comfortably if you were three feet tall) A very dear man kept it in his garage for about five years...so essentially it is still very, very new to me. Men flirt with this car all the time...they speak to me to be polite! Younger guys always want to show their stuff and I'm like DUDE...are you kidding me! Sometimes, and I blame the car totally, I can't resist and have to show those guys just how fast this grandma can go. This is why the South Carolina Highway Patrol attempts to keep me in check. As I have said before, it is the car's fault...it just doesn't like to drive below optimum performance and pray tell where can you drive that fast legally except at the race track? Me and the car, we have an understanding...now if we could just get the police force on board we would be golden.

Happy driving my friends and if you ever come this way...we will surely go for a spin!

Are You Late for Work?

2010-04-29T08:37:00.005-04:00

So I was wondering...anyone else notice the extreme good looks of the highway patrol on motorcycles? I have first hand knowlege due to the difficulty I have driving the speed limit!

My car is sleek and designed for speed. It is not happy when optimal speed and performance are not up to par. As I pulled over in a church parking lot and believe me I said a prayer...this cutie walks up to my car and says "Are you late for work?" I say, "no, I work for my husband and I am having some kind of muscle spasm" (yep, that would be my heart flippin and floppin)

Well, I guess he took one look at my wet hair, lack of make up and just maybe I reminded him of his MOTHER! He took the requisite driver's license, registration and said, "I'll be right back"

I am sure you will is what I am thinking along with he looks as good going as he does coming AND he is young enough to be my son! That very dear boy let me go with a warning to slow down. My adventure was last week and I have since passed "my buddy" many times. I think the highway patrol has an all points bulletin out on my car and I. A very dear man in uniform followed me just about all the way to work this morning. Have you ever noticed how poorly you drive when being followed by law enforcement?

I have carried my warning ticket around with me mostly because it reminds me to SLOW DOWN! It is symbolic of my need for speed. It is a metaphoric reminder to slow the heck down in my day to day existence. Every moment does not have to be spent multi tasking (really it doesn't) and rushing from one thing to the next. When I feel as if everything is rushing by in a blur...like how did my car get from home to work...where was I during the drive...I know I must slow down and change up the routine. No one wants to get entrenched too deeply in a rut they have created. This girl is emerging from a self imposed cocoon donning some bright colors and fluttering to a lovely nectar filled flower or two! Is your life on full auto pilot at maximum speed? Come smell the roses with me and just maybe we'll drag out the bubbles or fingerpaints!

Well I thought it was Wordless Wednesday!!!

2010-04-22T15:04:00.004-04:00

Peace. it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. (unknown)

So I am thinking some days (or weeks like this one) I wouldn't mind reverting to the childlike wonder that makes smooching the glass a great thing! How much fun would it be to watch the reactions of people passing by whilst your face is all contorted...do you think they would avert their faces, not make eye contact and hope it was not contagious?

I wish I could take credit for this adorable photo of our grandson, Adrian...I simply borrowed it...I think it speaks volumes!

Can We Tawk?

2010-04-14T09:14:00.004-04:00

On a recent excursion to Swan Lake and Iris Gardens with the granddarlings, these lovely Black Australian Swans were seen exhibiting some quite raucous behavior. The Black Australians are generally the most sociable of all swans...not so much during mating season.

Hey! Hey! We're talking to you...hmmpft...some birds just can't take a joke.

Ike and Tina get their feathers ruffled and leave in a Huff!

If you have ever wondered where the expression "get your feathers ruffled" came from...now you know.

Can you believe the layer of pollen on the water? We spent a lovely albeit very hot day observing the variety of water fowl...admiring flowers...playing...picnicking...Life is Very, Very Good!

Thanks, but NO thanks

2010-04-12T11:57:00.003-04:00

I love a great massage and a fabulous pedicure. A great hairstylist is worth their weight in gold as far as I am concerned. Recently, I read an article about some of the following really super bizarre spa treaments :

snakes that relieve tension (I don't think so) for about $70 one can have non venomous snakes slither across your back thus massaging it and relieving tension. Um...no thanks!

take a bath in tea, coffee, red wine, sake, or ramen noodles. (Japan) Sake is supposed to be good for your skin...green tea boosts the immune system. I honestly don't know what to think about soaking in a vat of ramen noodles...ewww! The Czech Republic offers tubs of dark beer!

the Hershey's Chocolate Spa (finally an idea I can wrap my brain around) perhaps a Whipped Cocoa Bath, Chocolate Bean Polish or a Chocolate Fondue Wrap

24-karat gold facial treatment (for the mere price of $250) said to date back to Cleopatra, said to accelerate cell renewal and reverse oxidation.

The Geisha Facial - sterilized Nightingale excrement (contains important enzymes for your skin) at the mere cost of $180 you too can rub bird poo on your face!

Viagra for your hair...yes you heard it here...it is actually bull sperm combined with Katera root??? Try it and let me know.

Cactus massage - yes a cactus massage opposed to a stone massage or a snake massage...$245 smackers and you can have prick-free (oh don't go there) cactus pads blended and massaged into your skin.

A butt facial (there has got to be a good joke in there somewhere) exfoliation and microcurrent (sounds electric) therapy to remove any bumps or lumps finishing with an organic spray tan. Yep, I need my butt spray tanned...solve all my problems.

Caviar Firming facial...fish eggs for the face (guarooonteeed to transform your dull complexion to firm, radiant skin...how's that for a fish story)

Get wrapped in wet hay...whilst lying on a water bed you will be wrapped in wet hay which has been harvested from the meadows of Alpe Di Siusi...the only plus side for me is that you have to go to Italy for the treatment...I guess hay from the meadows of Alpe Di Siusi harvested at only certain times is better than hay harvested any ole time in the good ole USA...not a go for allergy sufferers!

And last but not least...a friend tried this in Singapore...the photos gave me the willies:

Garra Rufa fish (Doctor Fish) feet are placed into a small pool and filled with these little carp who eat the dead skin on your feet and legs...picture me shivering at the very thought!

So...my lovies...your assignment should you choose to accept it...try one of these fabulous treaments and report back to me!

If I were a ...

2010-04-06T10:00:00.003-04:00

I borrowed this fun idea from Yolanda at Perfectly Imperfect:

If I were a day I would be Saturday

If I were a time of day I would be 10:00 a.m.

If I were a planet I would be Jupiter

If I were a sea animal I would be a Dolphin

If I were a direction I would be Southeast

If I were a piece of furniture I would be a Chair (with arms)

If I were a liquid I would be Water

If I were a gem stone I would be a Pearl

If I were a tree I would be a Mimosa

If I were a tool I would be an Ax

If I were a flower I would be a Daisy

If I were an element of weather I would be Rain

If I were a musical instrument I would be a Harp

If I were an emotion I would be Joyful

If I were a fruit I would be a Pomegranate

If I were a color I would be Turquoise

If I were a car I would be a Porsche 911Convertible

If I were a sound I would be Laughter

If I were a place I would be the Coast (of just about anywhere)

If I were a city I would be Charleston

If I were a material I would be Cotton

If I were a taste I would be Salty

If I were a scent I would be Honeysuckle

If I were a body part I would be Eyes

If I were a song I would be a Ballad

If I were a bird I would be a Flamingo

If I were a gift I would be a Crystal Bowl

If I were a door I would be Glass with Lace Curtains

If I were a pair of shoes I would be Birkenstocks (even though I would want to be stilettos)

If I were a poem I would be Free Verse

I would love to know...what would you be?

Finally - An Exercise Experience to Love!

2010-03-31T11:56:00.004-04:00

I mentioned that I was taking a class called NIA (pronounced Neeyuh) and I absolutely love the energy and creative movement! I have a class this evening. I was a bit timid about a "dance class" I have two left feet and as a class member said "my right brain doesn't talk to my left"

I am "releasing" the clumsy, non dancing part of me into a freeform style of movement. Nia's theme: Through movement we find health! The following defines some of what the Nia Technique is all about:

"Can we experience deep physical pleasure, even joy, in a workout? Can a fitness routine nurture exploration of the self and transform the spirit? Nia says yes. Part yoga, part martial arts and dance, this soulful workout incorporates movement from nine systems, including tai kwon do, modern dance, Feldenkrais and others, into an inspiring dance-like routine. It’s performed in bare feet and unrestricted clothing to usually groovy music. And while a Nia instructor won’t urge you to feel the burn, a typical class will get your blood‹and your inspiration—flowing." AMEN and HALLELUJAH!!!

The class is an hour of continuous movement beginning slowly, building and building and ending softly and gently. Nia touches a deep longing in me to move the way our bodies were always intended to move. There is no judgment in Nia...loose your balance...center yourself and keep moving! I encourage you to research Nia...I purchased a DVD called Global Unity to practice with at home. If you are local, Nancy offers classes at Columbia Ballet School on Wednesdays at 6:00 and Sundays at 4:00. She also teaches at Still Hopes Wellness Center on Tuesdays at 6:00

Her movements are so beautiful and she is a patient, kind and generous instructor.

Carlos Rosas and Debbie Rosas Stewart (pictured above) are the founders of the Nia Technique, more information can be found here

I am thrilled to have found movement that I enjoy...that excites me...that I actually look forward to the classes. When you are ready...when you release preconceived ideas of what you can do...when the student is ready the "teacher" will appear! I have found my tribe.

Flashback Friday or Normal is Good!

2010-03-26T10:11:00.007-04:00

So after the great "boobie" scare of the last few weeks...it is good to be back to normal...almost! During the dark of the night, the very worst scenario would lodge into my brain and stay there...if nothing else the "scare" made me appreciate my life...the people I hold near and dear.
Please check the girls regularly and get a mammogram!

So...my grandson has been registered for kindergarten and I am not really sure where the time went...I am sharing the photos whereby little one still has a diaper and his shoes on...the cutest ones are of the bare cheeks running through the yard...that boy has always loved water and not wearing clothes...seems like he was born just five minutes ago...playing with the granddarlings brings me great joy!

A few other random thoughts:

I am wondering what the new neighbors with six kids, five dogs, two or three trucks and lots of tools will be building this weekend...last Saturday I woke up to hammering...there were two little buildings erected...I can't see much because for the first time in twenty years there is a privacy fence separating the yards...the house has been added to as well. I remember moving into our house and our backdoor neighbors passing brownies over the fence and how many backyard over the fence conversations we had...our children grew up together...I guess I won't be passing brownies through this fence.

Hopefully, I will be inspired to work on a few projects this weekend! I have started an art journal, a new dance/exercise class (more on that later...love it) apart from the millions of ideas floating through my brain right now I also have the very practical home and yard projects to consider. Actually...I probably should do more than consider those projects...I want some home grown fresh veggies!

Spring excites me...rebirth on so many levels...I am also reminded of my dear friend Dot Dot each time I see the daffodils in bloom...her favorite harbinger of Spring and the poem by Wordsworth!

I wandered lonely as a Cloud
That floats on high o'er Vales and Hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd
A host of dancing Daffodils;
Along the Lake, beneath the trees,
Ten thousand dancing in the breeze.

The waves beside them danced, but they
Outdid the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay
In such a laughing company:
I gazed -- and gazed --but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude,
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the Daffodils

Can you believe most of our "Daffys" down South have almost bloomed out!
What will you do with your glorious Spring time?

Duncan and Friends

2010-03-16T16:11:00.005-04:00

Who Knew? That TINY, abandoned puppy has grown and grown and grown and is growing still...as we speak, he eats EVERY thing! Ya gotta love him!

Playing around with a new lense...through the dining room window...

I'm just a wee bit excited...can you tell? Look out world one day I will have mad skillz!

Flashback Friday

2010-03-12T10:16:00.005-05:00

Hi Bro,

I always think of you when everything turns from gray to green. How you would show up on a Saturday morning with a fully loaded backpack, snag a snack after having hiked the LONG way from Mom's house to mine. You were always so happy on the trails...I promised I would hike Ranier for you...that mountain was yours to climb...I've done it in spirit many times...We've hiked bits and pieces of the Applachian Trail...I feel your presence in those moments. Those we love are never far from our thoughts...I imagine your heaven full of trails, trees and lots of camping...

(James in yellow bandana...victory...Springer, Georgia to Katahdin, Maine)

Hands

2010-03-10T09:14:00.006-05:00

Alas, I will never be a hand model. I have smallish hands with short nails and "Sahara" dry skin! Hands fascinate me...such a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures. I covet and admire those hands with long fingers, beautiful nails and graceful movement. My hand gestures are larger than life and I have been known to poke someone in the face when speaking (honor the space around me if you wish to remain intact with minimal injuries) At restaurants I sit on my hands (when not eating or drinking) to prevent knocking over liquidy things!

It is amazing how the brain sends messages to the nerves and muscles in the hand...seemingly without much thinking about it on our part. If your head itches...it is in rapid fire sequence that you reach and scratch the itch. We really don't think...my head is itching...I will lift my hand and scratch it! According to a number of sources and depending on "who you ask" there are 26 or 27 bones in each hand along with numerous muscles and nerve endings.

Looking at my children's and grandchildren's hands as infants I was always amazed by the delicate size. Grasping something becomes their first order of business! Often we take our hands for granted...the basic everyday use...until we injure them or suffer arthritis then we realize just how much we rely on the smallest movement and function. Many struggle with simple tasks...fine motor skills are a struggle due to disabilities. Observing and working with special needs children for many years has given me an appreciation of those abilities and a lasting impression of tasks accomplished with great effort.

My dear husband offers his hand even when I do not really need the assistance...it is a gesture of love. After "stickboy" has played drums for hours I massage his fingers. Holding hands is a gesture of love, trust and intimacy. (even when HE forgets and squishes the gunk out of mine with his bear paws) I adore the feel of little hands seeking my hand for comfort and safety.

Our hands have the power to show great love or great hate simply by gestures. We can lift someone up or knock them down. What do your hands say about you?

A Stitch in Time

2010-03-03T09:06:00.006-05:00

Do you remember the hand embroidered pillowcases of old? I loved the beautiful stitching and rainbow assortment of embroidery floss...the variety of stitches that would leave a pattern on your face if you slept on that part of the pillowcase. So close to purchasing a set with a pre-stamped design on them...sidetracked by something else in the craft/hobby shop. I have some serious trouble focusing my attention when surrounded by so many colors and textures!

In my mother's youth she was in the care of some nuns (that is a post for another day) and it was noted that this "tomboy" had a great aptitude and gift for fine handiwork. My mom could embroider the most intricate stitches. She knit beautiful cables and intricate designs for my brother and I. If it involved some type of thread and a needle, hook or needles...she excelled... all she wanted was to play ball, climb trees or garden. I remember the beautiful clothes of my youth and the decorative items Mom made for our home.

this sampler along with the "boy" mate hung in the room my brother and I shared during our very early childhood years. It needs to be cleaned up, pressed and re-framed...I thought one of the granddarlings should have it, however, I am not quite ready to part with it.

Embroidery has been on my mind alot lately, mostly due to the "Gift of Jewels" project hosted by the lovely and generous Se'Lah. I received this lovely hand embroidered card and knitted envelope which by the way is made of the softest wool (you know me I am a fool for textures) from a fellow blogger in Denmark. Imagine my delight receiving something postmarked from Denmark. Since I am of European descent and spent most of my childhood in Germany...it tickled my heartstrings in a way I cannot quite explain! Thank you Se'Lah for making this happen and thank you so much "landanna"!

Bonnie, at Mamma has Spoken received a felted pin and card from me...to which she responded by embroidering a pin full of Springtime! She created the pin using craft items from her stash...very green of her and very generous. I adore receiving cards in the mail...to receive a gift as well...icing on a very lovely cake my friends! A special thank you to Bonnie for sending Spring my way.

If you will excuse me...I am going to find some needles, embroidery floss and a pillowcase or two.

That was Then this is Now

2010-02-23T15:53:00.007-05:00

This ball of fur with eyes came to live with us in November of 2008. Picture a 3 year old in training pants, cowboy boots and a kitten in the crook of his arm...my precious grandson gifted me with a kitty left in the "country" needing a home (grandson's mom is not a "cat person")

Moe still loves to play. He is a rocket kitty in the mornings tearing through the house. He has a bell to warn us as he adores climbing up one's leg or launching arial attacks!

"I love me some sunshine"

Seriously...I mean seriously?

As an aside, my dear husband looked at me as if I had taken leave of my senses when I gently told him we were keeping "Moe Kitty" He has since put bird feeders in the yard (fret not, the birds are safe...Moe doesn't like the outdoors much) by Moe's window and treats him like our youngest son!

It Ain't Easy Being Green

2010-02-19T08:54:00.005-05:00

Words made famous by none other than our green friend, Kermit the Frog. Seriously, I have contemplated global warming, recycling, reduction and all the other myriad ways to "green" my life. Some days are better than others. Lately I have been overwhelmed by "stuff" My husband just shakes his head as I add more to the pile in the garage to be donated to Good Will.

It is a time consuming and emotional process. I crave simplicity. Life is complicated by so many other factors. That said, I look at all my gadgets and gizmos and wonder if the technology has made my life more or less than simple! I think sometimes we hold onto things because our aging memories can't be trusted to remember people, places and things. Label your photos people...there are people in some of my childhood pictures that I have no idea who they are or how they were important to me. I have purged my home/office so many times...the office and the garage seem to be the repository for all things that no longer have a home somewhere else. It is hard to let go of all the little notes, drawings and particularly books...how many books can one home hold...unless it's Biltmore House with its vast libraries.

As I stand in front of my closet each morning...I am not organized enough to plan outfits for each day or actually I think it is a mood thing...what looks and feels right one minute is so wrong in the next instant...I notice that I only wear a very, very small percentage of what I own. So why in the world do I hold onto all those clothes BECAUSE...dum...dum...dum...I might need them someday (yeah, right) Just this week I wore what I thought was comfortable...only to feel the need to strip around 3:00 in the afternoon...I was meeting my daughter for a movie and all I could think of was I have got to get out of these pants, this bra, this sweater and these shoes. Why would this have anything to do with being "green" ? I have decided to not buy anything just because it is "on sale". My rules are I have to ABSOLUTELY LOVE anything (clothes, shoes, household items) that comes into the house. I asked myself do I really, really need it or just want it. More often than not it is meh...not really! Donate those clothes and items you are not passionate about to someone that needs them or reinvent them so that you do not have to buy more stuff! This post, while a bit extreme, is inspiring.

(recycled maxi dresses from the seventies, love it!)

It is my desire to reduce my carbon footprint...to use less...to simplify. As the old adage says, "Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without".

p.s. The Daily Green is a great place to look for ideas to green your life.

Life is a Cabaret!

2010-02-12T08:20:00.007-05:00

My evil twin (aka the Diva) and I enjoyed a wonderful evening together. We began with beverages and bang bang shrimp at Bonefish followed by an outstanding performance of "Cabaret" at the Koger Center.

I had seen the movie version starring Liza Minelli, many, many years ago...as I started watching the performance...I was somewhat uncomfortable thinking of where it was going...1930's Germany, the stirrings of a new political party and all the hate that would result from a new Germany. I am half German and for some odd reason I feel ashamed of the Holocaust...my mother was a very, very small child neither of us would in any way have been responsible for the actions of the Nazis. I often hear people say that such an event could never occur again...yet it does, human bondage and genocide continue to plague the world even in 2010. People allow themselves to be swayed by charismatic speakers be it the media or savvy politicians and then quietly go about their business turning a deaf ear and a blind eye to the atrocities right around the corner.

Back to the performance...the music, dancing and acting were fabulous! Life is a Cabaret old chum, come to the Cabaret...where everyone is beautiful and life is one big party where reality can be ignored. Leben und las Leben (live and let live) is frequently recited throughout the performance as well as a musical number about seeing one's love through one's eyes rather than what society sees. (for the most part this is the credo which I strive to live). An engagement is broken off due to one being Jewish (Herr Schultz) and the other being German (Frau Schneider)and as the man says I am Jewish and I am a German. Heartbreaking, I tell you, to watch and to know that in history this played out more often than not. The point is brought up that if you DO NOT STAND AGAINST something, or do nothing...you in fact allow or support those actions...or as I believe Mark Twain said, " if you don't stand for something you will fall for anything" The theatre attendees were quite the subdued lot as each filtered out of the Koger Center and back to their lives. At the heart of it...Cabaret is a love story... with all the wonderful, fun things life has to offer...and it is a story of a darker, more sinister and brutally evil reality. In all things, there is opposition...how we choose to react or ignore those facts is our challenge...I hope we each choose wisely!

Just Horse'n Around

2010-02-08T15:25:00.006-05:00

I got my eye on you...actually on that carrot dangling from your fingertips!

oh boy...camera strap...nom nom nom...

and my little friend...DONKKEYYYY!!!

Out and about visiting the neighborhood animals. As long as you say a kind word or two, helps to have a snack on hand...you have non judgmental friends for life!

I'm pretty sure they make a pill for that...

2010-02-04T09:41:00.004-05:00

ARGGGGGH! Have you ever been so tired your hair even hurts? This is what happens when you choose a word for the year that has you removing toxic people, places, things, thoughts etc. from your life. The physical manifestations have been crazy! I am exhausted, my face is breaking out (what's up with that I am way on the reverse end of puberty) I am weepy, irritable and just out of sorts...oh...hold the phone...it is THIS...

Have you ever driven somewhere only to wonder how in the world you got there in one piece because you do not remember the drive? The mental fog and forgetfulness that is my life scares me the most. I am a forced optimist...that is...it does not come to me naturally. I tend to be more of a cynic and worrier...so my train of thought goes in the direction of what if it never gets better...what if I keep losing more pieces of my memory? These are the thoughts that keep you awake at night thus perpetuating the tiredness that seems to be a daily reality. I recently had an opportunity to create art to be considered for a book that will be published soon...the deadline was a short one and sadly not met by me as my spirit and body were unwilling. My teeth wouldn't even cooperate! I have a trashbag full of discards and a table full of semi used supplies. So disappointing!

So, my gentle friends, I need a plan...a list...I need to get some forward momentum happening...

In the wake of working in the business world all day, caring for aging parents, being a wife, grandma etc., etc. I am not taking care of myself...if I don't take care of me...how will I continue to be of service to anyone else?

Obviously some extreme self care is needed! I express or experience no hesitation when it comes to helping others...I think a little, nay a LOT of pampering is in order (that is my story and I am sticking to it)

What do you do when your energy reserves are low and you feel a little sad or in need of a boost? After all one can not live on Diet Coke and Chocolate alone...

Life's Simple Pleasures

2010-01-27T10:07:00.003-05:00

Christina is hosting another "simple things" party to show January who is boss! I do not have a huge beef against January since it is my birthday month and around here we tend to celebrate for a month!

the simple things I love today...

the sun is shining brightly~sloppy granddarling kisses~daughter made chili (yum)~funky, soft socks in a variety of textures and colors~the feeling of a scarf around my neck~big hugs from my darling husband~Moe kitty jumping on the bed to let me know it is morning and time for breakfast~teacups and saucers~fragrant steam rising from a mug~hot chocolate with marshmallows~all my darlings wrapped up in a quilt~cookbooks~daisies~fresh herbs~baskets~ homemade birthday treats~just washed hair~list making~vegetable soup and cornbread~naps~phone calls and notes from friends near and far~a good feel it down to your toes laugh~hearts and stars~paper, pencils and words~hugs and kisses~every shade of green~

Life has so many simple pleasures...look around...seize the moment...enjoy the day!

SWEET!!!

2010-01-22T11:43:00.002-05:00

What do you suppose a man does for his wife for her birthday when he has already bought her the most awesome car...

loves her on her worst days...brings her breakfast...acts like she hung the moon or something equivalent...really, really likes to make her laugh...loves it when the two share a laughterfest over something silly...walks away when she is in a mood...exhibits a passion for living that will knock her socks off most days

as I listen to women talk about their husbands...I think of two personalities coming together to face life and all that entails...the good, the bad and the ugly. In all the ways we can drive each other crazy there is however a deep abiding love and his/my quirks are what make us who we are as an individual and as a couple.

My dear husband has a passion and zest for life...everything he does is larger than life...he is not a quiet man. Whatever his pursuit...he is all IN. He does not play small. He is everything I am not. I don't often tell him I admire this about him because half the time it his passion for things that can also make me cuckoo!!! and very, very tired.

Right now...he has reunited with his drum set and a few other musicians...oy vey...drums in the morning, drums in the evening, drums at supper time (sound like a familiar refrain, I can't remember the song)

A few friends have be working on a photo of the week challenge...this week's theme is SWEET...

I thought chocolate, birthday cake (since it is my birthday week) candy...since I have been such a crab lately my husband needs to know I think he is the Sweetest! and my car...DEFINITELY a SWEET ride!!!

That's What She Said

2010-01-20T14:30:00.004-05:00

I know you are eagerly awaiting the thoughts that are rambling around in my brain today...the birthday festivities continue...

people want to know...do you purchase birthday gifts for yourself? (well, heck yeah, I do)

one of the gifts I gave myself...budgeted and donated money to disaster relief and other charitable causes...needs continue LONG after the holidays are over and done.

have you thanked your parents (if you can) for "having" you whether by birth or by adoption? My Dad always said he was lucky because he was able to pick me :) I sure miss him!

why is paperwork triplicated (I know it is probably not a word) and quadruplicated etc. anytime the government is involved? I blame them on my now poor eyesight...quit changing stuff already unless it is ABSOLUTELY beneficial to all.

if you are driving a GIANT TRUCK or SUV do you not think it would be a really great idea to watch what you are doing...stop texting, put the phone down...use your mirrors for crying out loud and quit pulling out in front of me :)

some months ago, a blog buddy wrote about a man (not her husband) that wished to have a polyamorous relationship...no surprise he and his wife have or are divorcing...new word for age old dilemma of how to have your cake and eat it too...just sayin...HE says it is for personal growth and development...hmmmpf...(A Big Raspberry to you Mr. Personal Growth and Development I'm Bored and Lack Committment) I hope you don't rub off on the little growth and developments and that Mrs. G & D has a great life without you.

I really am striving to be the epitome of sweetness and light...some days a diamond, some days a stone!

To quote the late, gorgeous and tragic Marilyn Monroe "If you can't handle me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my Best" for some reason this resonates with me...we each have our best and worst days!

what happened to glamour and "dressing up" p.s. I am the worst offender these days...a life long family friend, a SAHM, always...always...put on makeup, fixed her hair and dressed in nice clothes before her husband arrived home from work.

on that note...I seriously budget for my fabulous hairstylist every six weeks...too bad I am not photogenic and my hair IS always a mess when someone snaps a pic...what's up with that? I blame it on my personal temperature fluctuations (hot flashes)

Life is Good, Friends are Great, Our children are FABULOUS and our grandchildren are even MORE FABULOUS!!! Now if someone would just pass me some chocolate...life would be even better! She has electric boots, a mohair suit...I read it a magazinoooooooooooo...yes this song is still stuck in my head along with TURN THE BEAT AROUND (Miami Sound Machine) and I FEEL GOOD (James Brown) more than you asked for...we aim to please around here.

vintage (1954) mohair suit...love it!

Let the Party Begin

2010-01-19T12:58:00.005-05:00

It is my birthday week...I have been a little remiss in the celebratory department. I was taught by the Diva to celebrate a birthday for at least a month. Since I was late starting I think it will just have to extend into February. I heard on "Chelsea Lately" (I love her droll expressions) that January has one of the most depressing days in it. Hmmm...not sure I agree with that. Last year was my 50th...that sounded so cool...51 not so much...to celebrate in grand style and because I love a list...for the next five days I will be listing 10 random "things" plus a bonus for the one...and away we go...

Blackberry inherited from dear husband...Kindle for birthday gift...How in the world is a body supposed to accomplish anything else with new gadgets around?

Still trying to re-organize from Christmas holidays

focus and concentration issues...oh look a bird...what did I come into this room for???

LOVE my new knitted scarf that I knitted for MYSELF...I never knit anything for myself

the weather is absolutely beautiful...it is hard to be at work at my desk...at least I have great windows...

yes I should be working on corporate income tax stuff etc...

procrastination is my middle name

must go to the grocery store...in current mood I will buy way too many perishable fruits and vegetables...love all the colors!

the donkey playing ball and the horse chasing him will be out today because I don't have my camera with me and the weather is great.

things I would rather be doing RIGHT now...hiking, taking pictures, playing with Duncan doggy followed by herbal tea and a nap with my favorite quilt and Moe kitty.

Wishing you a glorious day...just for today...BE HAPPY!!! You Make Me Feel Like Dancin...wanna dance the night away

Diva dance instruction at Jeanne and Mike's wedding - March 2009...it's electric!!!

Change of Perspective

2010-01-14T10:47:00.003-05:00

*Crankypants*

Ever have one of those days nay weeks whereby it seems as though you just got out of bed on the "wrong side" The month is half over and I guess I was expecting miracles without doing anything on my part. My friend Jayne wrote a little wake up and be thankful post which prompted me to realize I needed a change of perspective. I have a book that I purchased last year and have attempted several times to implement the activities in the book to improve my relationships with others starting with my beloved. Ordinarily we tease and joke and love and live. In the throes of hormonal hell...he just plain gets on my nerves. It is a forty day project...day one...patience!!! My shares are depleted. Day One Assignment...practice patience and say only kind, loving words...no criticism allowed. I blew that assignment out of the water trying to get my hibernating bear out of the bed. Instead of gaining equilibrium and starting over...a downward spiral ensued...yes, I am talking to you MAN in BIG TRUCK not watching where you are going...get the point, I thought you might. Visiting a few blog friends always does the trick as most are genial, positive thinking, caring kind of folks...thus a turn around point after reading Jayne's post and a few others. To further my cause, I also practiced three pages of "stream of consciousness" writing as described in the book "The Artist's Way". On my third page I had the urge to attempt writing with my non dominant hand, which in my case is the left hand. This required so much effort to not so simply form letters I have been writing forever...it made spelling difficult...some of my letters were backwards...difficult to "stay on the lines"...a massive shift of perspective. It is a right handed, fully functional, mobile, technical society...what happens to those that do not fit in the mold? I plan to do a little more "left handed" writing...compassion has increased, empathy back in place, tolerance, understanding and kindness restored. I take the everyday, "mundane" tasks for granted...the simple act of writing and reading and walking and talking. Not so simple for everyone. Excuse me friends, I have to go make nice with my beloved as he bought this crankypants a diet coke and breakfast...ya gotta LOVE that man! To quote my dear friend Jayne, “Hey, I hope some good things happen to you today.”

(Jayne and Connie - New Year's Day 2010 - expecting great things to keep happening)

*Crankypants can be found here.

POTW ~ HOME

2010-01-11T22:01:00.005-05:00

HOME is...

more about a feeling than an actual location or structure...a place of comfort, warmth and peace...
a gathering place for those we love...our Heart Space...familiar sights and smells...welcoming to friends and strangers...a place of spirit, love and laughter...a warm embrace...a kindly smile...food for body and soul...where we hang our hats...take off our shoes...sort our sorrows and multiply our JOY!

Beginnings

2010-01-06T08:10:00.002-05:00

“Try to keep your soul young and quivering right up to old age, and to imagine right up to the brink of death that life is only beginning. I think that is the only way to keep adding to one’s talent, and one’s inner happiness.” George Sand

So...I have no problem beginning...that is when I am not procrastinating...it is the finishing that often causes me problems. I am currently reading three books, have three knitting projects on the needles...two of which I don't like and will unravel...the list could go on and on. We are six days into a New Year...my bing, bang, pow is not living up to expectations here. This is my year to "release" all the old stuff that hinders progress...when you throw that out into the Universe...one must fortify one's self for what may come. I am currently battling cold sores, digestive ills and a number of other physical manifestations...thanks Universe!

I thought it would be lots of fun to participate in a 365 photo a day collaboration and I am now officially six days behind...fabulous photo of the week due Monday...hmmm...my offering...at the beginning of this post...meh.

In true Loose Lemon fashion...we will make lemonade out of lemons. Obviously my body needs the rest to handle releasing old "stuff" and naps are good, right? I will make up with my camera and we will enjoy the freezing weather together...looking at an uninspiring drive to and from work with new eyes. Knitting projects will be unraveled and begun anew. Herb tea, soup and quiet are good things along with warm bubble baths and glossy magazines (even if the cat whines when he can't get the door to the bathroom open)

If you are looking for me...I am bubble bathing or napping or reading or gazing at the birds...I am releasing, releasing, releasing...

Let It Be

2009-12-29T08:50:00.006-05:00

As a champion worrier I often find myself finding something, anything to fret over. As I wrote in an earlier post I choose a word rather than make resolutions. My word "release" has already challenged me on a number of occasions...I tell myself "Let It Be" or Let It GO!" All this musing and fussing puts me in mind of The Beatle's tune, "Let It Be." In Marlo Thomas' book "The Right Words at the Right Time," Paul McCartney mentions that the song came to him due to some worries he and The Beatles were having and he pictured his mother saying "let it be" So when you find yourself in times of trouble just remember to...

As I reflect on 2009 deciding what no longer serves me well...let it be reverberates through my head. Anyone in the New York City Times Square area there is a "Good Riddance 2009" giant shredder...just write what you didn't like and shred it to bits in preparation for 2010. As one decade closes and a new one begins may we release that which serves no one, be grateful for our blessings, live with joy because life is indeed GOOD! Wishing you Peace, Love and Happiness for the New Year!

Who Will Fill My Stocking

2009-12-22T13:46:00.003-05:00

Scrambling about...looking for those last minute treats to fill the stockings...once Santa's job, now mine...once two stockings now more than 10! Mutiny in the ranks when it was suggested that maybe the GROWN children were getting a little "old" for stockings. Looking at the "loot" in the guest bedroom ~ wondering if I will still be filling stockings when I am 60, 70, 80...once gave each child an infant sock filled with a chocolate quarter and a candy cane...they were not amused!

So who will fill my stocking...it is looking a bit bare

who has small tokens and love a plenty to share

Do you have some patience, gratitude and time to spare

who will fill my stocking...with joy, peace on earth,

smiles, giggles and mirth...remembrances of that glorious birth

Dear Santa,

The above was a plea from my NOBLE self...this girl would love some chocolate, scratch that...lots o chocolate, uninterrupted quiet time, girly girl stuff...lotions and potions, sparkles

and let's think about that trip to Italy...just sayin

I have been MOSTLY good

xoxox, Connie

Love and Peace! Merry Everything to All my Fiends...I mean Friends.

Another Floozie Christmas

2009-12-17T10:57:00.002-05:00

The "floozies" have been gathering monthly for birthdays and annually for Christmas for several (many) years. Since we are blessed not only with good looks and charming personalities...a unanimous decision was made to adopt a family each Christmas rather than buy gifts for each other. The Princess of Quite-A-Lot collected funds, pondered who the family should be and did all the shopping...Thanks Princess! After a scrumptious feast (all the floozies are excellent cooks) Santa's helpers set about the task of wrapping gifts and making merry!

It warms my heart to have such generous, beautiful (both inside and out) wonderful friends.

2009-12-14T13:48:00.004-05:00

Have you been reflective of 2009 or are you too busy rushing around to think about it? Seventeen days left of this month, this year and then we begin anew...a New Year...a New month.

I have been "inside" my own head too much lately. They like me there...no expectations but my own. The danger in this is the disconnect from everything around and about. These musings and thoughts wake me up at the ridiculous hour of 3 a.m. almost every morning without fail. It is hard to do anything when you are exhausted. I have been obsessing a bit about being so caught up in the survival mode that there is a tendency to forget to slow down and enjoy the moment. Hurry up and do this and that. Oxymoronic (yeah, I am pretty sure that is a hybrid of the real word) Overly meditative versus hurry up there is more to be done and you are not getting enough done.

A few years ago I began choosing a word for the year rather than making a resolution...as I had the same resolutions for over ten years...THAT was obviously not working. The word gives me a direction to travel and I make better progress. So in typical fashion I began thinking of a word for 2010...just one word? I had a word in mind and it didn't seem "cool" enough or cute enough to post on a sign or bracelet as a reminder...I denied my word. I have been obsessing and thinking "and you thought a resolution was difficult, you can't even pick a word, one word." I threw a bunch of words in the pot and looked at it for a long time...fished my hand around til I had two and felt the edges like I could tell what was on one piece of paper from another!

What do you suppose happened...well of course it did...I chose the word that I have been thinking about and discarding for a month. More irony...the word is RELEASE...

The tendency to hold onto things when they no longer serve the greater good...objects...relationships that no longer work well for either party...thoughts...traditions...that reel that keeps playing in your head saying this is the way you have always done this...these are the areas in which I plan to apply the word I so desperately did not want as my word for the year. It already feels like the right choice.

*image is not mine...unable to find proper documentation...(many take credit)

To Be a Person Like That

2009-12-08T10:52:00.002-05:00

Dear Dot Dot,

In remembrance of your wonderful life and because you have been on my mind much...because you were such a kind, thoughtful, giving person...because your humanitarian efforts raised the bar for all of us...I pledge to do at least one anonymous act of kindness every day of December...more so than usual. Til we meet again my friend...you are sorely missed...even though I can sometimes feel of your kind spirit and often snarky humor...love you always!

"Once in a Blue Moon"

2009-12-02T09:58:00.003-05:00

"Many of the instances in which we see colors in nature are due to a physical phenomenon called scattering. Scattering occurs when a beam or wave of light is scattered in a range of directions as a result of physical interaction with particles in its way. Outdoorsmen have unwittingly observed the scattering effect for many centuries. A much-mistaken incidence of scattering leads to the widespread phrase, “Once in a blue moon.” This phrase is accurate with its connotation of rarity, but those who coined it claimed that the uncommon event was just a cyclical happening associated with the Moon’s proximity to Earth. In truth, it is wholly due to scattering in the atmosphere. Forest fires and violent volcanic eruptions can fill the sky with tiny particles that will provide more of a scattering effect than is normal." For more info on the scattering effect see www.sewanee.edu/.../Worthington/Worthington.htm

Tonight we will have our first full moon of the month...the next full moon "the blue moon" occurs on December 31st.

It seems impossible to me that we are reaching the end of another year! I have been contemplating the word I will choose for 2010. I quit doing resolutions many years ago and now choose a word each year to be a reminder of my intentions and aspirations for the year. It works. It is probably about time to start nagging Jayne about her word for the year...she always chooses a great one!

I enjoyed a milestone birthday this year...I am finally middle aged (50) and have already had all the "crisis" I need... so my intention for 2010 is to fully embrace who I have become in 50 years and continue living the best life.

Back to the "blue moon phenomenom" it is said anything started and completed within the cycles of a full moon will culminate with great success! Here is an opportunity to complete some goals and end 2009 with a BANG!!! Maybe you are waiting for something, whatever is standing in your way...take a chance...after all...it only comes "once in a blue moon"

Here is a great idea from Jamie Ridler Studios: Remembering 2009

What was the highlight?
What was the low point?
What are you proud of?
What was fun?
What has changed?
What has stayed the same?
What did you say yes to?
What did you say no to?
What challenged you?
Who are the new people in your life?
What will you be glad to leave behind?
What do you want to remember?
What would you like to celebrate?
What did you love about this year?
If this year was a painting, what colours would it be?
What do you want to take with you into 2010?

So here's to wishing you a wonderful December complete with two full moons! May all your dreams wishes and intentions come to you. I highly suggest some moon watching with loved ones. Frank, Elvis, Ella and I are off to sing "Blue Moon" Peace and Love Ya'll (thanks Kristi)

Mostly Wordless Wednesday

2009-11-25T07:35:00.004-05:00

Arms stretched out to embrace the wind and sun, little fairy flower dancing. Such quiet, gentle beauty. Wishing you and yours blessings, abundance and if you celebrate a most glorious Happy Thanksgiving!

Abundance

2009-11-18T12:34:00.004-05:00

More folks are turning their attention to expressing their gratitude at this time of year and I think that is a great idea. Some time ago I made it my practice to truly be amazed by my blessings each and every day. When I am feeling grouchy or blue it requires extra effort. Each day that I arise I am thankful for a new day full of possibility!!!

I am a list maker by nature...I probably have lists of lists...so without further ado...a list of 25 things I am grateful for at this moment!

my knowledge that I am a daughter of a Heavenly Father who knows me and loves me. That I know I have a Father in Heaven and that some day I will be reunited with all my loved ones! I could not get through a single day if I thought that this life is it...there is no more...it just ends.
my family...they mean the world and beyond to me...I love each one dearly.
friends...they make my world go round!!!
granddarlings...I know I mentioned family however these cuties deserve a special mention of their own...oh how I love each one and how special and dear they are to me!
my sweet, sweet husband...he is not necessarily in 5th place and he IS family...again he deserves a mention for all the things he does for me and our family.
seasons...I love that we have a variety of weather and each is beautiful...right now I am enjoying the beauty of changing leaves even as they are falling to the ground.
pets...I love my pets they bring loyalty, dedication and love to the household... even though Moe kitty woke me from a peaceful slumber by attacking my dangling foot...thanks kitty I have two gouges on my foot!
home is where the heart is and I love my home.
plenty of good things to eat and drink in abundance.
books...I love to read
creativity including being able to practice taking pictures...I love my camera and hope to achieve a decent level of proficiency some day
employment and good prospects for our company's future!
flowers...daisies and sunflowers are my favorites followed by just about any other kind.
art/museums/galleries...I love to soak up works by old masters and new artists...I love creating my own art
music soothes my soul (most of it anyway) I love that there are so many varieties and I can enjoy whatever I am in the mood to listen to at the time.
my racy little sportscar...I love riding with the top down on a beautiful sunny day. It is not a practical car but it sure is fun! (thank you honey)
mountains and woods and streams...hiking and strolling through all the splendor.
beaches that are within a few hours of my home...love the waves crashing...love where the ocean "touches" sky.
technology...I am grateful that I can be in touch with the blink of an eye
snail mail...I am truly thankful when I receive a letter or card in the mail...that extra time and thought that someone takes to let you know they are thinking of you!
Danksos and Birkenstocks...my feet love them truly!
funky socks
cardigans and scarves
All the teachers I have had in my life and those yet to come...learning is a lifetime process
my senses...taste, touch, hearing, sight, smell, and intuition

It is amazing how quickly one can come up with a gratitude list...the list could go on and on...these are but a precious few! Thank someone today! Give thanks today and everyday! It sure makes me a happier person.

Stringing Our Way to Disney

2009-11-16T12:25:00.002-05:00

Looking for something handmade and filled with love to give as a Christmas gift? My friend, Kelly teaches Special Needs children at Neptune Elementary School in Jacksonville, Florida. She got this brilliant idea (with no help from moi) to create a project that would teach her children sorting, counting and many other skills...the reward for this project is a trip to Disney World in Orlando (which I plan to attend) Here is the awesome link to the project... B.E.A.D.S
"Because Everyone Always Deserves Success" Privacy concerns do not allow me to post pictures of the students or videos of them working on the necklaces, keychains, bracelets and other items.

I have known Kelly since...well a long time...we have worked together on many, many projects.
She originally taught special needs classes in Camden and I assisted her with job coaching...we placed the students with volunteer employers in grocery stores, retail shops, and hospitals to teach them job skills. When the students were not "working" ...life skills were taught with various other projects. One of our biggest and most crazy endeavors at the high school was to create a monthly "restaurant". The students chose a theme, i.e. Chinese, Mexican...EVERY aspect of learning was covered during the month and culminated in a restaurant meal which teachers, staff and administration could purchase...they could eat in or take out. Each student had a job from hostess, to cook, to waiter, to kitchen help. The funds that accumulated after expenses would result in a fabulous end of the year trip. We went camping at Myrtle Beach with dinner and a show at the medieval theater...a trip to Charleston...horse and buggy rides with a meal in a very nice bed and breakfast (the students dressed up and had lessons in ordering from a menu and etiquette) Kelly is an artist and I try to be one...which resulted in numerous art projects (and disasters) One year we made sour dough bread and rolls ALL YEAR LONG...our promised trip was not to be due to budget cuts and we had the horse and buggy rides and lunch. (this did not go over well with us because the students earned the money and it SHOULD HAVE been earmarked for this and only this...not general school funds, that's a story for another day) My dear friend had a tendency to get really innovative and make more plans than two people could possibly accomplish in a short time with special needs students...she always relied on me to slow things down a bit and determine what we could realistically accomplish!

Take a look at the site...this friend is amazingly talented and a great teacher...how about help her take her students to Disney...a trip of a lifetime for many of them!!! She and I...oh what fun we had together...I really look forward to going on this trip myself if at all possible!!!

In Memorium

2009-11-11T11:25:00.005-05:00

December 18, 1925 - November 10, 2009 May your journey to the next life be filled with peace and joy. You are so loved and will be missed by so many family members and friends.

This soft spoken somewhat taciturn wonderful man was my father in law for 13 years...he stepped in to be my "dad" when his son and I were married. My own father died 27 years ago. Our relationship was born of humor and a gentle teasing between the two of us. My favorite story he tells of "us" is one that got better and more exaggerated each time he told the story. It began with our house remodel and the invitation to stay in my in-laws home since we had no bathrooms...it was a time I cherish because I spent a summer with them and built a great relationship with both and was able to learn so much about "their history". I shared the middle upstairs bathroom with Mr. Fogle...he stored the toilet paper in the closet near the entry door which to my thinking was highly inconvenient...I moved it all to the cabinet beside the toilet. That evening in walks "FoFo" with a giant case of toilet paper. He mentioned that he didn't realize we were completely out of paper...there was not a single roll to be had...I confessed that I had indeed moved the toilet paper in the cabinet beside the toilet...that incident happened probably seven years ago but to hear him tell it...it was like yesterday and that I not only moved it once but twice...he cautioned everyone that I would re-arrange things if not watched.

I came to work at Fogle Electric almost three years ago. My father in law taught me many things about the electrical business and took great delight when I would ask questions about his work. Work is the one thing that made him happiest. He worked every day through his illness and only quit a few months ago when he was to weak too come to work. Even during those last months...he would look at me and say...I'm going to get better and I'll come give you a hand...or I need to come by and keep an eye on you. We had a jovial, joking, laughing type relationship...it was not filled with hugs, kisses, I love yous or lots of words...it was special and I will miss him.

Hey Fo Fo...how about not hassle the cute angels...til we meet again

An Exercise in Patience

2009-11-09T09:33:00.005-05:00

Did I mention that one of my biggest pet peeves is the CONSTANT use of cell phones??? Particularly while one should be FULLY engaged when driving a vehicle...thank you so much for driving into my turning lane and then stopping in front of me while talking on your phone.
Is it just me or is this highly annoying? I really do not want to hear you argue with your child/spouse etc. while I am...in a public bathroom, shopping or eating in a restaurant...is it really that important? Parking a big honking SUV while talking on a phone is probably not such a great idea either.

Last week proved to be an exercise of continued patience which I am lacking in spades which by the way culminated with a flat tire on the way home...thank goodness for a Friday mental health day...

Saturday was hectic with a hair appointment and super hero birthday party. A "quick trip to the grocery store tested the patience of a saint. The first line I attempted to "get in" had customer paying for all her items, one item at a time separately with coupons and some other foolishness...lane two...customer is in express lane with a fully loaded cart, pays, forgets something so goes to the FRONT of the register to pay for the forgotten item...this only happens when one is in a hurry (I allowed EXTRA time for a stop to the store) I kept telling myself, "there is something to be learned here" Patience, my friends is in fact a great virtue!

I think patience becomes a problem when you are overextended physically and emotionally...if you have a health issue such as a hurty back...little annoyances become exacerbated! Whilst shopping for party favors at the dollar store...I noticed this odd looking gizmo (see photos below) and a few people behind me were discussing "the gizmo's" merits as heard on an infomercial...I requested they pass one to me. Did I mention I LOVE this back rest thingy!!! It helps you to sit correctly in your chair AND gives great support for the back. It has elastic on the back and this is very important...the elastic thingies keep the back support attached to your chair so it does not fall over when you stand up thus causing SOMEBODY to fall when attempting to return to said chair! I might also add that if your vehicle does not have the lumbar feature this works extremely well for support while driving (again, you should probably be sure the elastic thingies are properly in place, just sayin)

All this comfort can be had for merely $1.00 that is $29.00 less than the infomercial price!

Monday arrived with a whole truckload of new issues. Did I mention my printer ran out of ink in the middle of a project and the extra ink was not to be found anywhere in this office??? Desperate times call for desperate measures...2 cartons of diet coke, yogurt, pretzels, assorted fruit (lots) and some chicken, a case of water...while on the "ink" errand I popped into the grocery store for ONE (1) carton of diet coke!!! I am thankful to be employed, to have a car to drive, stores nearby with plenty of goodness...not everyone is thus blessed. I am ever mindful of all the many blessings and gifts I enjoy even in the midst of being a grouch.

Thankful Thursday

2009-11-05T09:41:00.003-05:00

PERSEVERANCE...

Some days, weeks or months are better than others...I am feeling a little inclined towards burrowing under the covers and "hiding out" sigh...the thought comes to my mind...And It Came To Pass. It is True, in a twinkling of an eye...those desperate moments pass and the sun comes out shining brighter than ever!!!

A few tunes I've been humming lately reminiscent of "ole blue eyes" Frank Sinatra...a few lines from the song...High Hopes

Next time you're found, with your chin on the ground

There a lot to be learned, so look around

Just what makes that little old ant

Think he'll move that rubber tree plant

Anyone knows an ant, can't

Move a rubber tree plant

But he's got high hopes, he's got high hopes

He's got high apple pie, in the sky hopes

So any time you're gettin' low'stead of lettin' go

Just remember that ant

Oops there goes another rubber tree plant...

And..."Would like to swing on a star, carry moonbeams home in a jar, be better off than you are or would you rather be...a mule...a pig..." I'll take the star and the moonbeams thank you!

Blessings abound and today I am thankful

for a most glorious bright sunshiney day with a delicious crisp breeze
a Friday ALL TO MYSELF...some homecaring, birthday party set up, a little self care
hair appointment on Saturday morning which means the lovely Laurel will make me beautiful...plus she'll wash my hair...that is joy!
Super Hero birthday party for Hunter who turned 5 on Tuesday...I am thinking I will be Super Nonnee
my husband telling me that I am the BEST part of his life (I love you too, honey)
for a list of blessings that could go on and on

I do have a grateful heart...I do have days when I do not remember this as well...I am always able to shift my thinking...eventually. Wishing you moonbeams in a jar and a weekend of swinging on stars!!!

Duncan's Halloween Trick or Naughty, Naughty Puppy!

2009-10-30T09:12:00.007-04:00

This is a cushion LESS swing...what happened to the cushion you might ask yourself...one very active, very BORED puppy...Duncan!

Dear Mommy...Nom Nom Nom...Look Mommy...I made snow...Nom Nom Nom...you were at work all day see and your back was hurting and see I just wanted to play...

I Love you Mom, sorry your yard is all messed up and junk...guess YOU will be cleaning and I will chase the rake...

Touch O Pink

2009-10-29T09:56:00.009-04:00

October is nearing a close...it has been a month devoted to Breast Cancer Awareness...So much information is available...Be Aware...Do What YOU can! Christina of Soul Aperture invited the blogging community to participate in "pink thoughts"...who knows how many where reached by these efforts...Thanks Christina...you are a beautiful soul!

Browsing through photos I was amazed at the number containing a "touch o pink"

a few favorites...

electricians will not use pink pens no matter how desperate they get...
mother and daughter in shades of pink
overexposed gerber daisy...speaks volumes...we are overexposed to so much that is not good!
Divalicious Hair
Shoe Uncertainty...which one...granddarling chooses to wear one of each

Some clever creators have come up with an unusual way to raise funds for breast cancer research using bras as a vehicle for ART...here is one link...there are tons of images at Google Images...just type in Bra Art Show!

It has been my pleasure to participate in "pink thoughts"

Mostly Wordless Wednesday - Halloween Part II

2009-10-28T13:31:00.005-04:00

"Meech" and "Ree Ree" approximate ages 7 and 5...

Sisters...then and now...still playing dress ups!!!

Ree Ree still has a little gypsy in her (smile, I love that) Meech is dancing again, however not in a unitard (she is taking Hip Hop classes, I love that) Fall Festival Saturday - I know of one little girl that will probably, most likely, definitely be a PRINCESS of some sort!

P.S. Michelle...I am still looking for the Rug Indian costume...who knows what I may find!!! BEWARE...hehehehe...love you girls...mean it!

Halloween or Not...That is the Question???

2009-10-26T14:06:00.006-04:00

(Halloween circa 1968ish in Germany with one of my best friends...muhawhaw...)

One of the sure signs of Autumn...ghosts, goblins, pumpkins and all manner of things that go bump in the night. I am quite the fan of classic horror movies and literature. I am talking about a good ghost story, the oldies in black and white film...I am totally not a fan of anything classified as horror that involves slashing, bashing and mutilation. As a child, the movie "The Creature from the Black Lagoon" scared my socks off! Time to read a little Edgar Allen Poe with some hot cider by the fireplace...

My back has been "out" and as an excuse I watched scary movies and "The Haunted History of Halloween" on the History channel. The show was a veritable feast of Halloween origins and traditions. I have always thought of Halloween as a time for friends and family to enjoy some fun and frivolity. Apparently, many think of Halloween as the "Devil's Day" and give it a more ominous meaning. I understand that much of the celebration has pagan beginnings...to each his own...something that I found deeply disturbing...was of a church that had a Hell House...wherein they showed sins and what would become of "sinners" if they partook in Halloween or the many other sins of the world...from the little portions that were shown on the program...if I were questioning my beliefs or a seeker...I would run away from this "christian" enterprise as if the devil himself were after me. The "Hell House" was freaky and not in a good way. I just didn't get it! The God I worship is a God of Love and Mercy and Charity. I am interested in what others think of Halloween...celebrate it or not?

And being the heathen that I am...here is a repeat from another Halloween post...my Mom clearly helped throw this outfit together...

My friend's mom was a wee bit more imaginative...love ya anyways MOM!!! Thanks for letting me wear your dress and make up!